Female Personal Hygiene

[Caramel_Candy]

Originally Posted by Purple_alien

And here he wonders why I refused to talk to him today. I was so mad that I had a bunch of nose bleeds.

Awww and for Sumi's mom

[iSHi]

Originally Posted by jaani

Too much stress and negative energy around me....I'm going crazy!

I need someone positive with me to balance me out......I feel like crying now!

And I promise I won't break your heart to pieces

~j

"lean on me, when you're not strong. I'll help you carry on..........just call on me sister when you need a friend. we all need somebody to lean on...."


It was playing on the informercial thing.

[farah]

feeling much much better, alhumdulillah, alhumdulillah, alhumdulillah. jazakAllah khair for the duas may Allah swt grant you all with success in this life and the next.

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i really wish there was a way for Allah to drop down from the heavens and tell me what to do with this situation. i hate when people make you feel petty and insignificant for asking for something you consider a right. that my outlook on life makes me feel like i must get along with everyone and must forgive everyone and must always be the better person, but it's so frigging hard to always try to be the one to give, especially when you don't get the things you need back.

i hate people that i can't talk to. and i hate that they make me feel like such a bad person.

Understand that what you truly keep is what you give away. 'A'isha [28] (radiya'Llahu 'anha) recounted that someone had presented the gift of a lamb to the Messenger of Allah (salla'Llahu 'alayhi wa sallam). He distributed the meat. 'A'isha (radiya'Llahu 'anha) said, "Only the neck is left for us." The Prophet (salla'Llahu 'alayhi wa sallam) replied, "No, all of it is left for us except the neck."

i hope that applies to emotion/energy/etc as well.

sigh.

alhumdulillah.

/rant.

[Salika]

Originally Posted by farah

feeling much much better, alhumdulillah, alhumdulillah, alhumdulillah. jazakAllah khair for the duas may Allah swt grant you all with success in this life and the next.

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i really wish there was a way for Allah to drop down from the heavens and tell me what to do with this situation. i hate when people make you feel petty and insignificant for asking for something you consider a right. that my outlook on life makes me feel like i must get along with everyone and must forgive everyone and must always be the better person, but it's so frigging hard to always try to be the one to give, especially when you don't get the things you need back.

i hate people that i can't talk to. and i hate that they make me feel like such a bad person.



i hope that applies to emotion/energy/etc as well.

sigh.

alhumdulillah.

/rant.

Aww I feel you.

Much love and duas to everyone... Sumi, I pray your mom fares well

[Ilikemyscarf]

YouTube - Bleeding Love by Leona Lewis

[Salika]

You know, sometimes... I really don't know how to deal with my sister.

She's this melodramatic teenager who likes to ruin every occassion. You can't tell her she's being dramatic because "no, I'm not dramatizing it, I'm just saying the truth."

So she came to visit me and it's like I'm eatin breakfast and she's "not hungry" (but she told me this only after I prepared some food for her) and instead of at least sitting with me to spend time with me, she sitting on the computer playing solitaire.

Everytime I ask if she wants to go somewhere or do something... "Sure, I don't care" or "Meh, no, I don't want to do that."

This morning after I ate (alone while she played solitaire) I was firm with her... didn't yell because I don't want to get angry or do anything irrational, but I was firm. I was like look, I'm going out of my way for you, I have all this homework that I need to get done but instead I spent yesterday at the mall with you, I made you food and you could not even bother to sit with me, etc"

And her facebook status, to match up with her drama-ness, her status is like "seriously, what's the point."

I try to be kind to her, I don't yell at her, I've dropped all the mean jibes at her (like sarcasm), it's just UGH..

She was like this at hajj, like this even at my own nikkah, it's like ...

I don't know what to do anymore and I can only maintain my cool for so long....

[displaced]

Originally Posted by Salika

You know, sometimes... I really don't know how to deal with my sister.

She's this melodramatic teenager who likes to ruin every occassion. You can't tell her she's being dramatic because "no, I'm not dramatizing it, I'm just saying the truth."

So she came to visit me and it's like I'm eatin breakfast and she's "not hungry" (but she told me this only after I prepared some food for her) and instead of at least sitting with me to spend time with me, she sitting on the computer playing solitaire.

Everytime I ask if she wants to go somewhere or do something... "Sure, I don't care" or "Meh, no, I don't want to do that."

This morning after I ate (alone while she played solitaire) I was firm with her... didn't yell because I don't want to get angry or do anything irrational, but I was firm. I was like look, I'm going out of my way for you, I have all this homework that I need to get done but instead I spent yesterday at the mall with you, I made you food and you could not even bother to sit with me, etc"

And her facebook status, to match up with her drama-ness, her status is like "seriously, what's the point."

I try to be kind to her, I don't yell at her, I've dropped all the mean jibes at her (like sarcasm), it's just UGH..

She was like this at hajj, like this even at my own nikkah, it's like ...

I don't know what to do anymore and I can only maintain my cool for so long....

she's probably going through stuff she doesn't want to talk about. or maybe she's not..she's a teenager. I know I wasn't fun to have around. maybe she came to visit you, not necessarily to have a chat but to just chill with you or because she didn't want to stay home.

I know she's being a brat but don't alienate her. if she wants to come over, let her..if she wants to spend solitaire, let her. she just wants to do her thing. there are alternatively worse things she could be doing with her time.

so the next time she comes over and watches tv or plays solitaire, do what you need to do. don't treat her like a guest. you have homework, do it. you have housework, do it. you have errands, run them.

[Aryan_]

Originally Posted by Salika

You know, sometimes... I really don't know how to deal with my sister.

She's this melodramatic teenager who likes to ruin every occassion. You can't tell her she's being dramatic because "no, I'm not dramatizing it, I'm just saying the truth."

So she came to visit me and it's like I'm eatin breakfast and she's "not hungry" (but she told me this only after I prepared some food for her) and instead of at least sitting with me to spend time with me, she sitting on the computer playing solitaire.

Everytime I ask if she wants to go somewhere or do something... "Sure, I don't care" or "Meh, no, I don't want to do that."

This morning after I ate (alone while she played solitaire) I was firm with her... didn't yell because I don't want to get angry or do anything irrational, but I was firm. I was like look, I'm going out of my way for you, I have all this homework that I need to get done but instead I spent yesterday at the mall with you, I made you food and you could not even bother to sit with me, etc"

And her facebook status, to match up with her drama-ness, her status is like "seriously, what's the point."

I try to be kind to her, I don't yell at her, I've dropped all the mean jibes at her (like sarcasm), it's just UGH..

She was like this at hajj, like this even at my own nikkah, it's like ...

I don't know what to do anymore and I can only maintain my cool for so long....

Card games are haram. Tell her to play minesweeper.

[displaced]

Originally Posted by Aryan_

Card games are haram, tell her to play minesweeper.

your face is haram.

[Salika]

Originally Posted by displaced

she's probably going through stuff she doesn't want to talk about. or maybe she's not..she's a teenager. I know I wasn't fun to have around. maybe she came to visit you, not necessarily to have a chat but to just chill with you or because she didn't want to stay home.

I know she's being a brat but don't alienate her. if she wants to come over, let her..if she wants to spend solitaire, let her. she just wants to do her thing. there are alternatively worse things she could be doing with her time.

so the next time she comes over and watches tv or plays solitaire, do what you need to do. don't treat her like a guest. you have homework, do it. you have housework, do it. you have errands, run them.

I should probably be more clear...

My family lives a 5 hour drive from me. My sister flew to see me. It's pretty rare honestly that my family comes to visit me. It's kind of a big deal actually. It would be a waste of time and money if all I did was my thing when I live in this city with tons to do. If she lived in the same town as me or whatever, then ya, it's not that big of a deal, but when you travel long distances to see someone, you spend a little extra time together. That was my take on it at least.

I'm trying very hard not to alienate her, but it's like everytime I do something nice for her, she sucks the joy out of it for herself and everyone around her.

[displaced]

Originally Posted by Salika

I should probably be more clear...

My family lives a 5 hour drive from me. My sister flew to see me. It's pretty rare honestly that my family comes to visit me. It's kind of a big deal actually. It would be a waste of time and money if all I did was my thing when I live in this city with tons to do. If she lived in the same town as me or whatever, then ya, it's not that big of a deal, but when you travel long distances to see someone, you spend a little extra time together. That was my take on it at least.

I'm trying very hard not to alienate her, but it's like everytime I do something nice for her, she sucks the joy out of it for herself and everyone around her.

there's an 8 year difference between my sister and I. I'm the younger sister in the relationship. when I was a teenager, I was behaving the way your sister is so I know where she's coming from. and I know for a fact that the way you feel is the way my sister used to. she probably feels like being in the same room is spending time together.

she'll grow out of it. let her be, let her do what's comfortable to her. in a few years, you can tell her what a brat she was and that she owes you a lifetime of babysitting since you put up with her crap.

[Pushpa]

Originally Posted by Salika

You know, sometimes... I really don't know how to deal with my sister.

She's this melodramatic teenager who likes to ruin every occassion. You can't tell her she's being dramatic because "no, I'm not dramatizing it, I'm just saying the truth."

So she came to visit me and it's like I'm eatin breakfast and she's "not hungry" (but she told me this only after I prepared some food for her) and instead of at least sitting with me to spend time with me, she sitting on the computer playing solitaire.

Everytime I ask if she wants to go somewhere or do something... "Sure, I don't care" or "Meh, no, I don't want to do that."

This morning after I ate (alone while she played solitaire) I was firm with her... didn't yell because I don't want to get angry or do anything irrational, but I was firm. I was like look, I'm going out of my way for you, I have all this homework that I need to get done but instead I spent yesterday at the mall with you, I made you food and you could not even bother to sit with me, etc"

And her facebook status, to match up with her drama-ness, her status is like "seriously, what's the point."

I try to be kind to her, I don't yell at her, I've dropped all the mean jibes at her (like sarcasm), it's just UGH..

She was like this at hajj, like this even at my own nikkah, it's like ...

I don't know what to do anymore and I can only maintain my cool for so long....

My sister was weird with me after I got married too - perhaps she's finding it hard to adjust to you having someone else in your life? Do what displaced said and try to keep calm, and just do your own thing. If she wants to join in, she will. Maybe she came to you just to get away from home or something.

[the_only_one]

Duas for everyone, burned hand, sick moms, stress for everything.

salika: i can say i can relate to your sister to some extend, that I, myself used to come off like your sister (brat, sucking the joy, self centered etc) when I went to visit my elder sister for the first time in states. al though, it was not intentional, i found that my sister was being too bossy, she was dictating me every now and then, as what to do next, and how to behave next. i know that my sister can/has been a dictator in the past, and i never felt that i need her to change. i was quite accepting of our dominant-relationship, however, after being away from her so long for so long, i had kinda forgot how our relationship truly was in the past. even though, in her books she was acting all normal, but since after she moved away, there was no one to "boss me around", so i decided to build the image of self impowerment in my head, and no one can dictate me, other than my parents. hollaaa. then i get there and i find my sister is acting all weird, so i felt offended by the way she was treating me. i felt that she was making me feel inferior to her.she was telling me how to live my life al though, she was having ample of problems in living her life. yet the truth of the matter is, she was just being herself, sweet-caring, but i was being a jerk.

[heba]

good morning beautiful ladies
a) i had a GREAT time last night at the spice girls concert. i lost my voice. lol. took a billion pictures. gooood times.
b) salika- i was like that with my sis. EXACTLY. (minus the food part, i love to eat )
anyway, i grew out of it. im 20 now, me and my sis love sitting and talking and havin fun together. but still, sometimes when im over, i take a nap or play on the computer a bit. and she does the same or cleans up or whatever. she WILL grow out of it (inshallah)

[Timbit]

I've been giving my sister the silent treatment for the past week or so 'cause she pissed me off. But it sucks 'cause now she won't let me wear her shoes. Dammit.

And she's not home this weekend and I miss her.