[the_only_one]

Originally Posted by Laimuun

mm, maybe it's just me, but that sounds so arrogant to complain about guys coming over for proposals. it's the traditional way of proposals across most cultures, so why do you think its presumptuous for them to propose that way?

if being traditional is not your thing, that's fine, go out and find your own guy, but don't knock the poor guys who choose to go the traditional route.. it's just as awkward for them as it is for you.

heaven forbid, if a guy admitted what some girls here just did, he'd be written off as an arrogant *****.

with me im more traditionalist than anything. my pet-peeves has been to get crappy rishtas/il-eligible bachelors, which made me think "what the hell are they thinking, am i that desperate?...like the age factor, school factor etc..then there were the odd extreme liberals ones "

[Laimuun]

well, from what I know, you/your family can reject a proposal before it even gets to the whole lets-go-visit-the-family stage, if the guy doesn't seem to be up to your standards. that's easiest on everyone involved, no?

[Timbit]

Just say no, and it shouldn't even come to the visits.
My parents usually just say no because they're not even considering getting any of us married right now.

And in my experience, usually they're the ones who end up holding the grudge (the people who asked). Because they got rejected. Makes no sense, but they do. *shrug*


EDIT: In other news, my Eid mehndi is the ugliest thing ever. That's the last time I let my cousins get near my hands with a mehndi cone.

[the_only_one]

Originally Posted by Laimuun

well, from what I know, you/your family can reject a proposal before it even gets to the whole lets-go-visit-the-family stage, if the guy doesn't seem to be up to your standards. that's easiest on everyone involved, no?

i dont know how is it in other cultures, but in my cultures, the first refusal by the girl's side is not consider a legit one, so the tradition has been to keep proposing until their exhausted or the girls' family gives up saying 'no'! this kind of mentality irrates my smallest and tiniest spinal nerve

[displaced]

Originally Posted by Laimuun

mm, maybe it's just me, but that sounds so arrogant to complain about guys coming over for proposals. it's the traditional way of proposals across most cultures, so why do you think its presumptuous for them to propose that way?

if being traditional is not your thing, that's fine, go out and find your own guy, but don't knock the poor guys who choose to go the traditional route.. it's just as awkward for them as it is for you.

heaven forbid, if a guy admitted what some girls here just did, he'd be written off as an arrogant *****.

I think it's presumptuous to think you have a chance with someone when you know absolutely nothing about them.

and if it was so awkward for them, they didn't have to come.

[zzze]

assalamu alaykum

they're only HOPING to have a chance, and they wouldn't be trying if they knew you were taken already. They have to start somewhere.

[sally]

hi.
i just wanna say..its nice to not have to wear hijab at my job because its in an all women environment

but its totally, totally not worth the drama caused by all female coworkers. wow. wow. wow. talk about unneeded tension? maybe its because everybodys young.

all women clients are great..but all women coworkers are the biggest annoyance ever.

freakin estrogen

one of the few nice people who work with me..a very sincere, not ill intentioned at all type of girl who works there told me that if even tho this job is in my field, i dont really need to put up with the BS caused by everybody else working there and should consider other facilities of the nature in the area

im really confused. ive been here like less than a month. i dont like people who start and quit jobs left and right.its not good for your reputation/resume, etc.

i love what i do, but i dont want to end up hating what i do in six months because of completely nonsensical drama caused by the others who work around and with me

...confused. i want to cry from frustration. not because im exagurating things but.. i suppose this is life. you put up with crap because its worth the experience?

[flutterz]

it's so much fun to shop for baby boys. you'd think they sell babies at babies'R'us like they sell toys at toys'R'us. but no. you'd be so wrong. what they actually sell is STUFF for babies. you'd think they should call it stuffforbabies'R'us but no. you'd be wrong again. they just call it babies'R'us. i don't know why. it's very misleading is what it is. i was disappointed. but the disappointment was short-lived. baby stuff is THAT cute! the baby boy is even cuter (mashaAllah). i already miss him. the aqeeqa is in a few months but i'm hoping SIL brings babyface for a visit sooner, inshaAllah. he's sho cute, mA! i just wanna go awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww n never stop...

[Spice]

May I ask what you do? I'm currently looking for a job, I'm not yet applying, just looking at the places I can apply. And you mentioned that you dont have to wear hijab, wheee! That sounds too interesting.

Originally Posted by sally

hi.
i just wanna say..its nice to not have to wear hijab at my job because its in an all women environment

but its totally, totally not worth the drama caused by all female coworkers. wow. wow. wow. talk about unneeded tension? maybe its because everybodys young.

all women clients are great..but all women coworkers are the biggest annoyance ever.

freakin estrogen

one of the few nice people who work with me..a very sincere, not ill intentioned at all type of girl who works there told me that if even tho this job is in my field, i dont really need to put up with the BS caused by everybody else working there and should consider other facilities of the nature in the area

im really confused. ive been here like less than a month. i dont like people who start and quit jobs left and right.its not good for your reputation/resume, etc.

i love what i do, but i dont want to end up hating what i do in six months because of completely nonsensical drama caused by the others who work around and with me

...confused. i want to cry from frustration. not because im exagurating things but.. i suppose this is life. you put up with crap because its worth the experience?

[sumiyia]

it's the awesomest feeling to live in your own apartment and walk around freely without hijab... i no longer have to worry about brother-in-laws and other non-mahram males... i actually finally got a chance to dress up and wear something other than track pants and a hoodie... i wore earrings too!

i love my new place alhamdulillah!! its neat and clean and there's plenty of storage space and i'm decorating it and it looks soooo nice masha'allah!! only drawback is the lack of natural lighting... energy efficient bulbs are fabulous though

oh also... i like my husband

all of the above totally makes up for a crappy eid.

[khadeeja29]

Originally Posted by flutterz

it's so much fun to shop for baby boys. you'd think they sell babies at babies'R'us like they sell toys at toys'R'us. but no. you'd be so wrong. what they actually sell is STUFF for babies. you'd think they should call it stuffforbabies'R'us but no. you'd be wrong again. they just call it babies'R'us. i don't know why. it's very misleading is what it is. i was disappointed. but the disappointment was short-lived. baby stuff is THAT cute! the baby boy is even cuter (mashaAllah). i already miss him. the aqeeqa is in a few months but i'm hoping SIL brings babyface for a visit sooner, inshaAllah. he's sho cute, mA! i just wanna go awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww n never stop...

it's funny you mention that because it's so hard for me to find cute stuff for my son. i like babies r us but i don't buy his clothes there... other than onesies.

[zzze]

assalamu alaykum

Originally Posted by sumiyia

it's the awesomest feeling to live in your own apartment and walk around freely without hijab... i no longer have to worry about brother-in-laws and other non-mahram males... i actually finally got a chance to dress up and wear something other than track pants and a hoodie... i wore earrings too!

i love my new place alhamdulillah!! its neat and clean and there's plenty of storage space and i'm decorating it and it looks soooo nice masha'allah!! only drawback is the lack of natural lighting... energy efficient bulbs are fabulous though

oh also... i like my husband

all of the above totally makes up for a crappy eid.

i'm so happy for you every woman needs her own place, may Allah swt make your new home full of goodness and happiness ameen

congrats

[Spice]

Ever have someone say something so hurtful that it leaves you speechless? It sucks, and the feeling lasts forever.

[zzze]

asslamau alaykum

maybe he/she said it not knowing you'd b hut by it, or maybe they just said it to see how much you cared, and...only said it because they didn't think you cared?

aw

[the_only_one]

Originally Posted by sally

hi.
i just wanna say..its nice to not have to wear hijab at my job because its in an all women environment

but its totally, totally not worth the drama caused by all female coworkers. wow. wow. wow. talk about unneeded tension? maybe its because everybodys young.

all women clients are great..but all women coworkers are the biggest annoyance ever.

freakin estrogen

one of the few nice people who work with me..a very sincere, not ill intentioned at all type of girl who works there told me that if even tho this job is in my field, i dont really need to put up with the BS caused by everybody else wor