Female Personal Hygiene

heba · #**19036** (**permalink**) 10-07-2008, 10:12 PM

heyy ladies

so the 2.5week strike my university had has put all the students at amajor disadvantage. everything is so crammed and the semester has been extended. this is gunna be hard

and to top it all off, my life really sucks at the moment...im hoping that things are gunna get better soon though, because its so low it just cant get any worse..

hope alls well with all you beautiful ladies, and

's and

's and duaas for those who need them

Caramel_Candy · #**19037** (**permalink**) 10-07-2008, 11:41 PM

's for everyone

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I love winter weddings

xoxo · #**19038** (**permalink**) 10-08-2008, 12:16 AM

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Originally Posted by Sugarberry

if the mehndi is consider part of the wedding ...then that makes its a 3 day wedding, regardless of whos paying for what, having separate days for each event adds up the expenses.

But of course their are always ways of scaling down and still having a nice event.

the mehndi is a separate event that has been financed for separately (and the cost of which won't drastically help out with the wedding reception-associated expenses if we skipped it altogether). and it's only for family and a few friends. besides it's a tradition, like a rehearsal dinner or bridal shower. desis aren't the only ones that do such things, btw.

thanks sumiyia and Mademoiselle for the advice. much appreciated. sumiyia, i'll contact you via PM

salika, i agreed to the shower before i realized i'd be the one paying for it.

thejellymill · #**19039** (**permalink**) 10-08-2008, 10:16 AM

xoxo I agree with salika. Even if you agreed to the bridal shower before knowing you'd be paying. That's just not fair.. that's not your friends giving you a bridal shower, that's YOU giving you a bridal shower and that's messed up. Bridal showers don't have to be huge events, why not make it a potluck? You can provide some simple snacks and some juice/soda and everyone else can bring the food. You don't have to invited 50 or even 20 people, just 10 of your closest female friends and cousins etc

.

We had to budget for my wedding as well and I had an awesome bridal shower alhamdulillah only because everyone involved in the planning chipped in a little out of their own pockets. The backdrop for my mehndi was one of those divider panel things (similar to this) we had lying around at home. My cousins took a few of my fancy dupattas, a 99 cent flower garland from walmart, some tape and nails and voila!

Now the wedding backdrop was another story..

. The hall people messed it up and used it as the cake backdrop instead (btw my aunt made the cake for free

) so we ended up having NO backdrop behind the stage and they couldn't change last minute

. I guess it's kinda funny looking back...

I'm really sorry that you're going through so much difficulty right now with this. Inshallah you'll be able to get some great advice from sumiyia and others that will help make your big day awesome

. Congrats by the way

thejellymill · #**19040** (**permalink**) 10-08-2008, 10:34 AM

Alhamdulillah all my test results from the bloodwork came back and they said it all looks normal. I guess it was all effects of stress and lack of sleep. SubhanAllah what a toll those things can take on one's body, even in the short term

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flutterz · #**19041** (**permalink**) 10-08-2008, 11:22 AM

i can't believe we're gonna be moving at the end of this month, inshaAllah.
- his and her WICs and double sinks...

alhumdulillah!

i can't believe the landlady's gonna be showing the duplex this weekend!
- she actually told my husband that we're not allowed to leave cuz we're such good renter peoples (mashaAllah).

i can't believe i have so much junk to clean up and pack!!!
- this means we finally have to clean up our chalk art on the (unfinished) basement floor. i'll miss the giant pink heart with our names inside!

i can't believe Hajj is just around the corner!

- i just started looking into "go phone" kinda thingies for Hajj.
does anyone know about getting a phone package to use in Makkah and Medinah. do they sell "go phones" there to use during Hajj/Umrah???

omg omg omg!!!

dua's please... jazaakAllahu khair.

Sugarberry · #**19042** (**permalink**) 10-08-2008, 11:26 AM

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Originally Posted by xoxo

the mehndi is a separate event that has been financed for separately (and the cost of which won't drastically help out with the wedding reception-associated expenses if we skipped it altogether). and it's only for family and a few friends. besides it's a tradition, like a rehearsal dinner or bridal shower. desis aren't the only ones that do such things, btw.

I disagree mehndi's ( from what ive seen) are nothing like a bridal shower/rehersal dinner yes its a tradtion but bridal showers/rehersal dinners are usually way more low key than mehndi's are ( although your particular mehndi may differ, since your having it at home) as for what happens in other cultures i wouldnt know, that being said this really is just semantics.

You know what be really cool is if someone complied a book taliored to muslims on how to cut back on wedding costs.

hefty · #**19043** (**permalink**) 10-08-2008, 11:27 AM

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Originally Posted by flutterz

i can't believe Hajj is just around the corner!

- i just started looking into "go phone" kinda thingies for Hajj.
does anyone know about getting a phone package to use in Makkah and Medinah. do they sell "go phones" there to use during Hajj/Umrah???

omg omg omg!!!

dua's please... jazaakAllahu khair.

Mabrook on going for Hajj inshaAllah! We are going too this year.. are you guys going with a group?? SubhanAllah isn't it so exciting- I just met with a friend yesterday who gave me a bunch of tips on what to bring (medicines, sweater for medina, books) - can PM those if you want

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Sugarberry · #**19044** (**permalink**) 10-08-2008, 11:29 AM

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Originally Posted by flutterz

i can't believe we're gonna be moving at the end of this month, inshaAllah.
- his and her WICs and double sinks...

alhumdulillah!

i can't believe the landlady's gonna be showing the duplex this weekend!
- she actually told my husband that we're not allowed to leave cuz we're such good renter peoples (mashaAllah).

i can't believe i have so much junk to clean up and pack!!!
- this means we finally have to clean up our chalk art on the (unfinished) basement floor. i'll miss the giant pink heart with our names inside!

i can't believe Hajj is just around the corner!

- i just started looking into "go phone" kinda thingies for Hajj.
does anyone know about getting a phone package to use in Makkah and Medinah. do they sell "go phones" there to use during Hajj/Umrah???

omg omg omg!!!

dua's please... jazaakAllahu khair.

Hajj Mubarak!

foozball · #**19045** (**permalink**) 10-08-2008, 11:46 AM

salaams ladies. hope you are all doing well. today is the mr's birthday. our 1st birthday together. i made him open what i got him last night cause i couldn't wait any longer. he had mentioned he wanted it a while ago and i threatened bodily injury if he wasted $ on it. (really i just wanted to steal the idea

) alh. he loved it

sumiyia · #**19046** (**permalink**) 10-08-2008, 11:48 AM

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Originally Posted by foozball

salaams ladies. hope you are all doing well. today is the mr's birthday. our 1st birthday together. i made him open what i got him last night cause i couldn't wait any longer. he had mentioned he wanted it a while ago and i threatened bodily injury if he wasted $ on it. (really i just wanted to steal the idea

) alh. he loved it

ewwww you like boys!!!!

foozball · #**19047** (**permalink**) 10-08-2008, 11:50 AM

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Originally Posted by sumiyia

ewwww you like boys!!!!

i'm offended by such defamation, my friend.

sally · #**19048** (**permalink**) 10-08-2008, 11:51 AM

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^Never gets old

qudsia · #**19049** (**permalink**) 10-08-2008, 11:54 AM

as the resident fob, i must object to the statement made re: mehndis being the same as rehearsal dinners.

mehndis are NOTHING like rehearsal dinners. the purpose of rehearsal dinners are to do just that - rehearse. you check out the venue, meet the bridesmaids/groomsmen, figure out your role in the grand scheme of things, get a feeling for how the day will progress, practice walking down the aisle if you're part of the ceremony.

mehndis are separate functions entirely, that have no other purpose save to 1) set a day apart to put henna on the bride and possibly her female friends/relatives 2) perform all the desi mehndi rituals prior to the wedding (ubtan, et al) 3) have dholkis (in pakistan they have dholkis every night starting about a month before the wedding...it's basically where female friends and relatives spend the evenings singing songs/playing the dhol in anticipation of the upcoming wedding)...in the US, the mehndi function often incorporates the dholki spiel so it fits all in one day 4) get together for close family and friends to spend time together in an informal/relaxed setting

/ fob rant.

sumiyia · #**19050** (**permalink**) 10-08-2008, 11:55 AM

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