[PhDGirl]

Originally Posted by Timbit

I don't understand why children need to have solely their father's name. My (purely hypothetical) husband should want to give the kids my name too. And if he doesn't, then... okay, it's not going to be a dealbreaker if he's an amazing man otherwise, but it has the potential to be.

We plan on giving any hypothetical kids my maiden name as middle. So I guess they'd match my name more than the husband's. I go by all my names (like HIllary Rodham Clinton) but I doubt that most people use their middle names for anything.

[sally]

I don't like the idea of giving my kids my maiden name for a middle name. I think the middle name should be like a second first name.. Sounds like an idea that might come in handy if you and your husband have different choices for a first name.

Also I've discussed none of this with my hypothetical kids father. Muahaahaahaa. These things are not up for debate Just kidding.. but really, who wouldn't be happy with that kind of a settlement? You both get your way. It's the epitome of a compromise.

[caffienetime]

nowadays more and more females arent changing their last names. i thought its better, islamically, to keep your own last name.


i am not going to change my last name, but i might take my husbands first name as middle name....

[UmmUmayr]

Anyone bought a home laser hair removal kit? Any good?

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They have ones for £100 and under £200 aswell

[spicyhijabi]

Originally Posted by UmmUmayr

Anyone bought a home laser hair removal kit? Any good?

http://www.argos.co.uk/static/Product/partNumber/4420435/c_1/1|cat_10199659|Ladies+hair+removal|10199673/Trail/searchtext%3ELASER.htm

They have ones for £100 and under £200 aswell

I dunno, seems kinda shady to me...

[PhDGirl]

Originally Posted by sally

I don't like the idea of giving my kids my maiden name for a middle name. I think the middle name should be like a second first name.. Sounds like an idea that might come in handy if you and your husband have different choices for a first name.

Also I've discussed none of this with my hypothetical kids father. Muahaahaahaa. These things are not up for debate

Hmm maybe. I never had a middle name until I got married, so I hadn't really thought of that. But if you disagree on the first name and do a middle for that reason, would you call your kid one name and your husband the other?

Speaking of names, all of my parents' siblings have different last names and they are all different than my grandparents (all in the motherland). Does anyone else have that?

Originally Posted by UmmUmayr

Anyone bought a home laser hair removal kit? Any good?

http://www.argos.co.uk/static/Product/partNumber/4420435/c_1/1|cat_10199659|Ladies+hair+removal|10199673/Trail/searchtext%3ELASER.htm

They have ones for £100 and under £200 aswell

This seems like crap. There is an IPL kit out that you can buy from a dermatologist's office for $900, but I think I want to wait for the next version to come out...

[khadeeja29]

Originally Posted by moonlightrose

is it true that when you have a baby, they unofficially name the baby according to the mother's last name?

oh, and I love my name(both first and last)

hahahah..reminds me of when my son was born.. his health insurance card came as "male {insert my last name}"

i kept my name. all my accomplishments have been with this name. i also kept my name because i thought we were supposed to.. from an islamic standpoint. at least that's what i got from the hadiths and qur'an. my son took on my husband's name for that reason as well.

[sally]

Originally Posted by PhDGirl

Hmm maybe. I never had a middle name until I got married, so I hadn't really thought of that. But if you disagree on the first name and do a middle for that reason, would you call your kid one name and your husband the other?

You could call the kid by both names I think overtime one of the names would win and kind of stick as the dominant name...and by that time the hype about OMG this is the name I want our kid to have will have calmed..so it works out. But yeah, I have seen kids addressed by two first names on a regular basis. Doesn't work for everyone though. Sometimes one name dies out, except for the times the parents get really mad, then they address the kid by the entire name, haha.

[sally]

Originally Posted by PhDGirl

Speaking of names, all of my parents' siblings have different last names and they are all different than my grandparents (all in the motherland). Does anyone else have that?

I thought that was interesting. The only other time I've heard of that was on Islamica. I think IbnM said that's how it is for all his siblings in the family...Weird.

[UmmUmayr]

Originally Posted by spicyhijabi

I dunno, seems kinda shady to me...

Seems too good to be true doesn't it

Originally Posted by PhDGirl

Speaking of names, all of my parents' siblings have different last names and they are all different than my grandparents (all in the motherland). Does anyone else have that?



This seems like crap. There is an IPL kit out that you can buy from a dermatologist's office for $900, but I think I want to wait for the next version to come out...

Probably is a waste of money. Hmmm IPL kits *googles*

Oh and one of my dads sisters...her ids last names are all different

[spicyhijabi]

Originally Posted by UmmUmayr

Seems too good to be true doesn't it




Probably is a waste of money. Hmmm IPL kits *googles*

Oh and one of my dads sisters...her ids last names are all different

Yes it does, but I honestly don't know anything about it.
I just figure if its dangerous to goto someone who isn't properly trained in lasering, then its probably not a good idea to do it yourself.
But I'll be googling IPL kits too...

[PhDGirl]

Originally Posted by sally

I thought that was interesting. The only other time I've heard of that was on Islamica. I think IbnM said that's how it is for all his siblings in the family...Weird.

Yeah, all of us here have the same last name as my dad, but it's not the same last name as my grandfather or uncles. On my mom's side, nobody has the same last name either. I think it's also possible for someone to have one all-purpose name, like Madonna or Cher (I know someone like that) so perhaps the concept of names is more fluid. In my husband's family, they all call him some different first name. Not a nickname, but an entirely different first name (not on his passport or anything like that). I don't call him that though.

[Timbit]

Yes, I think a middle name should be more like a second first-name. Although one that's never used, 'cause otherwise, that's just confusing. I hate when kids are called one thing at school and another thing at home; it just irks me. My husband calling our kid by a different name than me would just annoy me.

For boys in my family, it's usually Ahmad (and I know for a lot of other Muslim men, it's usually Muhammad). So I'd pick one of those for a middle name for a boy... just depends on what sounds nicer with their first name.

Nobody ever uses their middle name though; it's just there. Except one aunt of mine who has a habit of calling people by their whole names. Even when it's not officially somebody's middle name (it's not for my siblings), she just adds it on anyway.

In my uncle's family, all the girls have Iman as a middle name. It only gets used when somebody is mad at them though. You know how you use the kid's full name when they've done something bad?

Also, I wouldn't want my kids to all have different last-names. Unless that was the only way the husband would agree to them not having solely his name. Then we could make up new last names for all of them. But I would just prefer them getting a hyphenation of our last-names as one last name.

[UmmUmayr]

Originally Posted by spicyhijabi

Yes it does, but I honestly don't know anything about it.
I just figure if its dangerous to goto someone who isn't properly trained in lasering, then its probably not a good idea to do it yourself.
But I'll be googling IPL kits too...

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I can't find anything where it says where to buy this ILP thing from

[spicyhijabi]

Originally Posted by Timbit

Yes, I think a middle name should be more like a second first-name. Although one that's never used, 'cause otherwise, that's just confusing. I hate when kids are called one thing at school and another thing at home; it just irks me. My husband calling our kid by a different name than me would just annoy me.

For boys in my family, it's usually Ahmad (and I know for a lot of other Muslim men, it's usually Muhammad). So I'd pick one of those for a middle name for a boy... just depends on what sounds nicer with their first name.

Nobody ever uses their middle name though; it's just there. Except one aunt of mine who has a habit of calling people by their whole names. Even when it's not officially somebody's middle name (it's not for my siblings), she just adds it on anyway.

In my uncle's family, all the girls have Iman as a middle name. It only gets used when somebody is mad at them though. You know how you use the kid's full name when they've done something bad?

haha! I haven't gotten the full name call in a few years now. But boy did that use to put the fear of God in me. InshaAllah your future husband will be on the same wavelength as you. And even if hes not he'll respect and understand your wavelengths