[Caramel_Candy]

I wish I could fast forward the next three years of my life.. I don't want to go through the motions, or the pain, or the stress, or the pressure, I just want to get there and be happy. It's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be but everyday is a gift and each new day allows me to be better and stronger than I was before. Lately, I try to remember the words of the Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him): “How wonderful is the affair of the believer, for his affairs are all good, and this applies to no one but the believer. If something good happens to him, he is thankful for it and that is good for him. If something bad happens to him, he bears it with patience and that is good for him.” (Narrated by Muslim, 2999).

Alh for everything

[Timbit]

Awesome!

I have four other friends I've known for ten years too (actually, one for twelve and one for thirteen), but we weren't continuously friends during that time. People move and grow apart and stuff. But it's always nice to reconnect with old friends!

Then there are a couple of other people who I met only in university, but I know they're going to be lifelong friends. You can just tell sometimes. One of them is now on the other side of the country, but we're still close. So these newer friends are a little behind in the game, but so what? Heh.

If/when I have kids, I'd like to stay in one neighbourhood until they're 18 and done high school, so they have a sense of home/community. I know some people whose families moved around every year or two years and they never got a chance to forge lasting friendships.

Anyway, if we all live long enough, hopefully we'll be able to say we've had real, meaningful friendships with certain people for 20 or 30 or 40 years.

[afrakabob]

Originally Posted by zakk

Madiha just asked me what the f-word means.

LOL. don't worry, i learned it when i was 3. (because my 8 year old sister heard it at school and told me it was "the worst word in the world." Now that's a pretty exciting concept to me at age 20... imagine how cool it must have sounded when i was 3...)

so i tried out my new vocabulary at the grocery store later that night, and my dad slapped me right then and there, for all the broccoli and carrots to see
i didn't say it again for a loooong time

[thejellymill]

afra you crack me up so much I wish we were real-life friends

Right now the oldest friendship I have is 7 years old. It kinda sucks when you uproot and move around the world like I did at age 12.. I still talk to my old friend from Karachi sometimes, some of them are on my fb but we're not really that close. My old best friend is all tattooed, pierced and drinks/smokes now. So sad. alhamdulillah though I'm very happy with the friends i have at university and the 7-year old friendship I mentioned? Yea we both decided on the same school coincidentally.. we study/have iftaar together and have classes together almost everyday. I love it alh

Speaking of tattoos, one of my other best friends got a tattoo (she's non-Muslim) of an Indian elephant on her lower stomach. She talked about it the other day but she almost fainted with her belly ring so I figured she wouldn't ever get the tattoo. She went and got it today.. it's soooooo awesome! Makes me wish tattoos weren't haraam

Actually my oldest friendship is with my mom.. 22 1/2 years (including the 9 months inside ). I love my mama and I tell her everything

[displaced]

my oldest friendship is 17 years old. we met in a masjid in connecticut when we were 8 and have stayed friends since. my second oldest friendship is 11 years old, and that's my fiance.

jellymill: we moved from connecticut to egypt when I was 9. the friends I'm talking about...their parents moved them to egypt when they were 13. I moved back to the u.s. when I was 18, they moved back last year

[Sugarcore]

Originally Posted by Timbit

I see somebody's been stalking my Facebook profile.

Kidding. Honestly, I wish that were the case, but it's not, really. A lot of work goes into looking this good.

Okay, just kidding again.


Another thing... this weekend, I'm gonna lock myself into my room and just pray a whole lot and catch up on readings. That way, I can take advantage of a couple of the last 10 days of Ramadan by sitting a mini-itikaaf, but I can also get some work done. Right? Right! Yay me!

hahah. I haven't been stalking you. I don't know what you're talking about. Hey, that mini-itikaaf sounds like a good idea... I should do that too.

Originally Posted by sally

Wow, so I had a FIT OF laughter over silly stupid stuff today. IT FELT SO GOOD. Haha.. I feel DRAINED FROM LAUGHTER. Yes, it was crazy. I had tears in my eyes. Masha'Allah lol

But like, whenever I laugh too hard, I get worried because I have some cultural superstition stuck in my head about how something terrible and saddening will follow crazy laughter

Does...anyone know what I'm talking about?

Yeah, my mom doesn't like it when I laugh out loud. Apparently I should only smile.

Originally Posted by sally

OMG. Does anyone ever feel like OVERLY NICE PEOPLE ARE so barf-worthy? YA ALLAH, what has the world come to? Superniceness irritates me. I think I have problems.

I know what you mean. Sometimes people are nice to the point where they can be taken advantage of. It can also come off as really fake too.

Originally Posted by Timbit

How long have you guys known your friends for?
I have one who I've been really close with for ten years now. Wow. That's a long time.

I've known a lot of my friends for a long time, but I don't keep in touch with them as much as I used to. Also I feel like I've changed a lot, grown a lot (they have too) and I find it hard to relate to the people I knew at a younger age. The oldest friends that I still keep in touch with are probably ones that I met midway through high school, so about 5 years.

FPH moves too fast, I can't keep up!

[farah]

oh. i should add sugarberry, nooni and i have been friends despite the fact that i've lived in.... 3 or 4 different cities in the time i've known them. alh alh alh

[DramaRani]

Originally Posted by Timbit

How long have you guys known your friends for?
I have one who I've been really close with for ten years now. Wow. That's a long time.

I've known one of my friends since the day I was born , so 25 years. Another friend I remember playing with since I was like 4 or 5. Other friends I met at quran class when I was 7 or 8. The "newest" friend I met in middle school and we became close through high school and college, so about 12 or 13 years? These girls are in my close circle of friends.

[HijabiPrincezz]

i have 2 friends that i've known since we were 6. i was the one that moved around like crazy from school to school within the city all over and even to pakistan for 9 months but alhumdulilah and mashallah we never lost touch with each other. i just realized thats 15 years mashallah mashallah. and its always crazy fun to laugh at the stupid things we used to do when we were little together.

then theres 1-2 close freinds from the beginning of high school, so about 6 years there. then theres laimuun that ive known for 5 years now (wow, im calculating these close friendships and im realizing how much time flies like crazy!) and then i have two close freinds that i met in college, and just like timbit said, you can feel that those will be lasting friendships, too.

i love my friends.

[Salika]

There are three girls that grew up in my city and we've been, for the most, friends (I learned a few weeks ago one of them kind of backstabbed me ) but one of my dear friends, I've known her since I was 6, so that's what.. 16 years?

[foozball]

Originally Posted by sally

OMG. Does anyone ever feel like OVERLY NICE PEOPLE ARE so barf-worthy? YA ALLAH, what has the world come to? Superniceness irritates me. I think I have problems.

I'm always in awe of genuinely nice people. I'm almost embarrassed being around them because I am so jealous of those attributes I don't have. My husband met Altaf Hussain at an iftaari last week and on the drive home, he was going on and on about how an amazingly nice person Altaf is and how in the most simple ways he makes you feel so talented and accomplished. He also mentioned how Altaf is funny and jokes but not at someone's expense. I told him I felt similarly about current MSA Pres Asma Mirza. You just feel so good being around her and mostly because she's really just so nice, mA.

May Allah swt help us see the good in such people and learn from it.

[foozball]

Also, my friendships last on average 3-5 years. Mostly cause people suck and I'm a *****.

[zzze]

assalamu alaykum

Aw, long friendships are cute. I had a best friend for nearly ten yeays but that got weird. Alhamdulilah now I have the closest group of friends that I've known for about 3-4 years

Alhamdulialh I now have most of what I need for departing Gonan miss my babies, even if they do make me feel liek my brain is about to explode (the noise!)

Hope you're all well insha Allah, keep us all in your du'as

[sona]

Originally Posted by Timbit

How long have you guys known your friends for?
I have one who I've been really close with for ten years now. Wow. That's a long time.

since college, so roughly 8 or 9 years. and these friends are my closest, my bffs. alhumdulillah

but my sisters are my closest friends to date. i've known them since they were brought home from the hospital.

Originally Posted by foozball

Also, my friendships last on average 3-5 years. Mostly cause people suck and I'm a *****.

i think we're on year 4. so does that mean we only have 1 year left?