Female Personal Hygiene

[sumiyia]

this one family friend of ours... we've known each other for like 15 years.. and she was in my younger brother's class in elementary school... she's 20.. and was just diagnosed with stomach cancer.. and its in the final stages.. du'aas please..

[Salika]

Originally Posted by sumiyia

this one family friend of ours... we've known each other for like 15 years.. and she was in my younger brother's class in elementary school... she's 20.. and was just diagnosed with stomach cancer.. and its in the final stages.. du'aas please..

Oh wow Sumi, khair insha'Allah. Is it too late to treat?

[Sugarberry]

I dont like when boys pay for me and alhumdillah Im not in that postion much.....but I also dont like when girls pay for me and I would NEVER give up my personal bank acct....no matter how much my husband persisted.....I would even consider having a secret bank acct.....I have heard so many horror stories after women lose their financhial independence....and i dont even think it comes down to a matter of trust...I think its good sense to have your own money that only you have access to....but thats my personal opinion.


Sumi inshallah Allah will ease her suffering.

[thejellymill]

dua's sumi my uncle was diagnosed with advanced stomach cancer last year.. inshallah your friend will recover 100% since it was caught early

[Salika]

We discussed basic ideas beforehand. We didn't discuss specifics though. I think my parents are going to pay for my tuition though. I hope I can work a bit after the bar (I don't think anyone would let me before). I can probably work when I work on my LLM... we'll see.

[sumiyia]

i took out loans to pay for grad school. that's what we're living on right now for the most part due to employment problems. i'm planning on working to pay off as much of it as possible, but he's not making me "pay him back." maybe its just me, but that kind of thing strikes me as odd. i'd probably be a bit offended.

[sally]

Disturbing...

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[sumiyia]

different strokes...

[moonlightrose]

Originally Posted by qudsia

i'm awkward about having people pay for me. but i don't even take money from my parents, so it's understandable. right? right? i'm working on it. teehee.

same with me.

[sona]

financial issues is such a huge deal for some people.
i know some people who have rocky marriages because of it

i still have my own bank account, but that doesn't mean we don't pool our resources. i helped him with the down payment on the house. alhumdulillah.

[serendipity_000]

Originally Posted by foozball

Honestly I think it becomes more of an issue when you are used to a much higher standard of living than he ever thought he would be providing. For instance, if you think it's totally normal to get manis/pedis every month and buy a $250 purse, and he cannot comprehend why any of that would be necessary or justified... then you have issues. Or even if he thinks a used Honda is just dandy and you've only had brand new cars, etc. Typically if you are both used to a similar standard of living that can be provided for, it makes it easier.

I never thought different standards of living would be a problem, but then I was also living in my idealistic glass tower. It really is something that can possibly cause friction.

I was interested in someone and he went out to dinner with my family and I recently. We ate at a restuarant that my family goes to somewhat regularly. In a show of bravado, he grabbed the check before my father could, but when he looked at it, it was well over a thousand dollars. He felt gutted when he couldn't pay it and talked about it for days afterwards. I don't want someone who feels that they don't quite measure up...ever.

[sumiyia]

thousand dollars???

[moonlightrose]

seriously?! for a dinner..

how many people where there?

[serendipity_000]

Lol, I have a big family and it was Per Se..

[foozball]

Originally Posted by serendipity_000

I never thought different standards of living would be a problem, but then I was also living in my idealistic glass tower. It really is something that can possibly cause friction.

I was interested in someone and he went out to dinner with my family and I recently. We ate at a restuarant that my family goes to somewhat regularly. In a show of bravado, he grabbed the check before my father could, but when he looked at it, it was well over a thousand dollars. He felt gutted when he couldn't pay it and talked about it for days afterwards. I don't want someone who feels that they don't quite measure up...ever.

1k? dayum.

but yea, when people are often used to something, they just assume its a norm. when you question someone's norms, it gets..awkward.