[Asvi]

my random cry-outs are annoying..at least there is something major going on in my life right now that is diverting my attention from other issues.

p.s. i can't make friend easily.
p.s.s. i wore a dress over my skinny jeans to work..i look cute.

[moonlightrose]

Jummah Mubarak ladies.

[Sugarcore]

frosh!

[DramaRani]

Alhumdulillah, for everything - the good, the bad, and even the very ugly .

Originally Posted by foozball

Duas for everyone going through hard times. May Allah swt ease your struggles and for all those who passed away, may they be rewarded with the highest of heavens, ameen.

Ameen.

[Timbit]

Originally Posted by Salika

Timbit: my parents are huge on education and they used to say stuff like I can't get married until I finish school or at least at a certain point in my educational career but when the right guy comes along, they can't say no and they know it-- at least that's my experience.

Kind of a personal question, Salika... you don't have to answer it publicly if you don't want to. Or at all, really. I remember you saying that your husband's quite a bit older than you... 8 years or so? Doesn't he want to start a family sometime soon?

Originally Posted by amina9183

I agree. More than likely they just dont want you to get distracted during undergrad. Lots of people go to grad school after marriage. My sister did her masters about 3 years into marriage, and it was demanding, but alhamdulillah she got through it. The right time to get married is when the right guy comes along Parents understand that too. I also think girls should have a year to just do what they want before marriage--like if you wanna take random cooking classes, you can...if you wanna travel, you can..if you wanna go live in a cave in afghanistan, you can. Because after marriage, there are so many responsibilities..and as great as it must be to do things with your husband, it's also a completely different experience to do them on your own. It also would prepare one for marriage, because you get to experience certain things and open your mind. I feel like I am getting that time now, and I am soo greatful for it. Insha Allah when I have kids, if my daughters are mature enough to handle being on their own(without doing haraam things), I will let them go out and experience the world or just do what they want for a year, even if it means living in a different city every month.

Yeah, that's true. That's why I want the time off; I wanna work/travel a bit.
But they don't want me taking a year off to do anything; they're just like "If you're going to do your Master's or whatever it is you're going to do, do it now." Oh, well... summer after I graduate, InshaAllah! I like being in school; the 9 to 5 isn't really fun.

My parents really just want me to finish my undergrad and then do something productive afterwards. For now, at least. Whether I choose to become a housewife later on in life isn't something they're concerned with.

Thing is, my dad's younger sister who's more of a big sister to me than anything else (since she was raised by my parents) got engaged when she was in undergrad. Then her fiance/in-laws started getting very impatient and so she got married while in undergrad. And then she got pregnant soon after too and was pregnant while finishing up her degree. She's happy, Alhamdulillah, but my parents still see it as somewhat of a tragedy/mistake on their part. So yeah, I understand why they think the way they do. They're just like "Once you get married, you're married for life and the kids come very soon afterwards." I go like "Uh, hello, birth control?" and they're just like ...


...29 hours without sleep.
And I had a really bad day, where I had to drive around all over the place. I didn't find anything I was looking for either. I hate shopping. And I hate driving.

[Salika]

Originally Posted by Timbit

Kind of a personal question, Salika... you don't have to answer it publicly if you don't want to. Or at all, really. I remember you saying that your husband's quite a bit older than you... 8 years or so? Doesn't he want to start a family sometime soon?

Nah I don't mind He's nearly 10 years older than me. Gah, he's turning 32 a week before our wedding! Anyways, to answer your question, he does want to start a family soon but he wants me to be ready and wants me to finish school as well so he's not pushing me although I don't think he wants to wait more than 2 years into the marriage (actually, neither do I). I mean I'll be done with school anyway and that's enough to adjust and have fun as a childless couple Hope that helps you.

[sumiyia]

hi guys...

hope no one's been affected by the hurricanes on the east coast.

[Asvi]

Originally Posted by sumiyia

hi guys...

hope no one's been affected by the hurricanes on the east coast.

it started raining here...and its suppose to continue tomorrow all day. Alhum. we're good here.

So i went to taraweeh today at the masjid and i wore a hijab (long rectangle scarf) and i looked cute , i mean it suited me, i always thought i'd look weird or something.

[iSHi]

Originally Posted by Asvi

it started raining here...and its suppose to continue tomorrow all day. Alhum. we're good here.

So i went to taraweeh today at the masjid and i wore a hijab (long rectangle scarf) and i looked cute , i mean it suited me, i always thought i'd look weird or something.

I've been meaning to go..and I know I'm going there to pray...but I don't wanna go alone. Good to hear your safe from danger.

I feel sorry for everyone affected by the hurricanes, especially the brothers and sisters fasting.

[afrakabob]

Originally Posted by Timbit

'Cause maybe you can't be married while in school (I don't think that's true though), but you can definitely be engaged.

My sister got married the summer before her third year of undergrad. Now they're both in grad school, and they're doing great, alhamdulillah.

Originally Posted by amina9183

Insha Allah when I have kids, if my daughters are mature enough to handle being on their own(without doing haraam things), I will let them go out and experience the world or just do what they want for a year, even if it means living in a different city every month.

that's an awesome attitude to have. too many parents are really overprotective with their children, especially their daughters. but the truth is, the kids are going to have to learn to be independent anyway. why not let them explore a bit? if their iman is strong enough, you don't have to worry about them straying when you're not there to keep an eye on them.

that's part of why i am so grateful that my parents let me move far away to attend college. two years ago i was an insecure little girl desperate to please everyone. i still have growing to do, but i'm a lot closer to being a confident, independent adult than i ever could have been if i stayed under their wing this whole time.

Originally Posted by foozball

Also, I don't know how to cook dinner without tasting as I go. That's the only way it comes out right.

maybe i'm wrong, but i was under the impression that it's permissible to taste food if you're cooking while fasting, as long as you don't swallow it. i don't have a source for that though.

Originally Posted by Asvi

i wore a hijab (long rectangle scarf) and i looked cute , i mean it suited me, i always thought i'd look weird or something.

psh. as if it's possible for you to NOT look cute

[zakk]

It's only permissable to taste food while cooking and fasting if your husband is zalim. Like, mean and stuff if his food isn't cooked right.

Otherwise he should realize it's ramadhan and sthu for the sake of his own blessings. Or you can cook at night or you can keep the spices low and add some more after you break your fast.

Or you can get takeout!

[khadeeja29]

duas all around

school stress has already begun, but i don't want it to get to me during this blessed month, inshaAllah. i love ramadan. i always look forward to going to taraweeh. my husband is working the double shift tomorrow, but i hope he'll have the energy to go for taraweeh, inshaAllah.

[afrakabob]

Originally Posted by zakk

It's only permissable to taste food while cooking and fasting if your husband is zalim. Like, mean and stuff if his food isn't cooked right.

ew! :shakes fist at hypothetical zalim husband:
i'd make him cook for himself

[sumiyia]

being sick totally blows... the worst feeling is when my fever sets in... chills + crazy body aches then hot flashes like i'm going through menopause... i'm actually kind of wishing i could get another one of those injections i got yesterday..

:drugaddict:

[DramaRani]