[nooni]

Originally Posted by Bluestar

Maternity leave has been extended to 9 months now i think,
.

just wondering where you heard that ?

[IbnMardhiyah]

Originally Posted by nooni

just wondering where you heard that ?

Dunno where she heard that from, but up here in Toronto, its now common for women to get up to one full year or even a bit longer for mat leave.

[Pushpa]

Originally Posted by PhDGirl

Oh yeah, that makes sense. I can also see how it might be necessary if either of the people had kids beforehand. I hadn't really thought of that, but I can see how that would happen.

In any case, I hope the OP finds the best solution for her and her husband.

Thanks PhDGirl. Actually, recently we've had some developments that will hopefully make it a lot easier to work it all out, InshAllah

[Bluestar]

Originally Posted by nooni

just wondering where you heard that ?

The maternity laws were changed in April 2007, i was wrong, it's been extended to a year now and women can take maternity leave even if they've just started a new job, so they don't have to give however months notice that they gave before.

[Ilikemyscarf]

I'm really lost. I don't know what I want to do after college.

[shadha]

Oki, so ANYWAY, I think I came up with an idea, hear me out.

Fact of the matter is, I have postponed finishing my education for poor excuses and for too long. I need to finish my education and start my career. I can't continue working these jobs where I'm barely making enough, actually I'm not, to survive. So, InshaAllah tomorrow? I'm going to try to call a community college and speak with them about taking a few courses during this summer or fall semester. Specifically Chemistry with Lab and Biology with Lab. I'm scared. Not only have I not been in school for years, but while I was in school I never had to learn how to study and I basically bs-ed my way through both HS and my associates degree. Did a pretty damn good job at bs-ing, considering I graduated with 4.0/3.9 but that's besides the point. It also doesn't help that I have always, and still do, hated school but again if I want to better my life, I have to do things that I may not like. Tough cookies.

Oki, so I'll try those two courses and InshaAllah, INSHAALLAH, I will pass and try to get into the dental hygiene program come Feb. I'll file for financial aid first thing in Jan. If I get accepted into the program, I'll try to do schooling through summer etc. Really put my all into it, i.e., actually apply myself.

If I InshaAllah really apply myself and give this thing my all, I'll graduate by age 22/23.

The only issue I'm facing- when to have kids. I don't think it's the right time now or in a year or even two to have a child. If I'm not happy and am always stressing, constantly to the point where I become ill, over the situation I'm in now- why would I bring a children into the picture? I'm thinking it might be best if I do wait until after I graduate. Maybe 23/24. Have a child or two and be done with it. Boom bam, than you ma'am type of deal.

Oki, so as of June 20th, 2008. This is my plan. Let's see if I can execute it. InshaAllah.

If you have an extra 5secs to spare, pray for me.


shadha-

[IbnMardhiyah]

Just put off having kids until after you graduate. Whats so stressful about that?

[unless your husband wants otherwise]

[shadha]

Ibn: Just put off having kids until after you graduate. Whats so stressful about that?

Because I do not, not not not not, want kids after 25.


shadha-

[IbnMardhiyah]

Originally Posted by shadha

Because I do not, not not not not, want kids after 25.

Honestly, no BS ... you need to lower your expectations. If you don't do it right now, Life will do it for you later on and you won't have much choice.

[shadha]

Ibn: Honestly, no BS ... you need to lower your expectations. If you don't do it right now, Life will do it for you later on and you won't have much choice.

I wish I could lower it to 24, but that would be pushing it a bit too much.

I understand what you're saying, hell at this point I'm not even certain I will be able to physically have kids, but I see no problem in mapping out when you would like to begin/finish having kids. Of course Allah, swt, is the Best of Planners but I like to tie up my horse.


shadha-

[Timbit]

Why don't you want kids after 25, Shadha? 25 is still really young. I don't want kids till after 25.

Go to school and try not to have any kids till you graduate and find a job.
But keep in mind that you can plan and plan, but really, you never know what the future has in store.

[wheelworks]

Originally Posted by Timbit

Why don't you want kids after 25, Shadha? 25 is still really young. I don't want kids till after 25.

Go to school and try not to have any kids till you graduate and find a job.
But keep in mind that you can plan and plan, but really, you never know what the future has in store.

You'll be better able to cope with the kids at a younger age. It's pretty hard when you're older. Younger is better donchaknow

Allahu A'lam:

[wheelworks]

Originally Posted by IbnMardhiyah

Honestly, no BS ... you need to lower your expectations. If you don't do it right now, Life will do it for you later on and you won't have much choice.

You're telling everyone to aim high. Now you're telling Shadha to not have high expectations.

Make up your mind will ya!


Or just stand on the top of the bridge and hope it won't collapse on a duckling

[Timbit]

Yeah, but 25 is not old.

[wheelworks]

Originally Posted by Timbit

Yeah, but 25 is not old.

Yea it's not that old. You only get your first gray hair then that's all...*shrug*