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Originally Posted by DramaRani
Don't kill me for saying this, but you know when you confront someone about their inconsiderate behavior, it just makes you a target. No matter how nicely you say something, you really open up yourself for an attack too. She probably felt that you and your friends were being "inconsiderate" while she was studying and she (at the time) didn't say anything and just let roll off of her back. So she assumed you would do the same with the music at 4:30 am. I don't agree with her. Maybe you and your friends didn't know that you were being "loud" or that she was even studying.
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Ya, I know that's why she brought it up, she probably did feel like I was attacking her, even though I was very nice to her. I didn't yell at her, attack her, or anything and my friends and I did not intend at all to be loud (actually we weren't being that loud, we were just talking). But she brought her friends over all the time and they were pretty loud too. Had she asked us at the time to lower our voices, of course we would have.
I just thought it undermined her own argument on the one hand because she was basically saying that she should not have to adjust her schedule to mine yet expects others to adjust our schedule to hers. I mean it's fine if you thought my friends were loud, but to first tell me that she should not adjust to my schedule then ask me to adjust to hers is just not fair.
I think it's a bit immature when you try to have a talk with someone and all they do is bring up stuff that you did. It's like why are you telling me now? I realize it's a form of defense, but we all get criticized. I mean it's one thing to say "hey, ya, you're right, I'm sorry but since we're on the subject, I have a couple of qualms myself if you don't mind" versus "oh ya, well
you do x, y, z..."
Anyways, whatever, that was years ago. Ya live ya learn.
My daddy is so cute. When I asked him to see the doc this weekend he, as usual, tells me to go to my pediatrician. I'm like married and in grad school, but he still wants to send me to the pediatrician
