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Originally Posted by Arabesque

I also learned something about a rukhsah only allowed in the Hanafi fiqh. If the husband is agreeable and there isn't a valid reason to reject him, but the father insists on being difficult, the judge will act as a wali, and the woman can marry without her father's permission. Marriage valid.

I told my mother that, and she said, "I don't care. We're Shafi3i "

Lol @ what your mum said.

I mean, yeah there's the provision in Hanafi fiqh, but I don;t want to give the wrong impression that girls can run out and marry anyone against their parents wishes and so on. The emphasis is put on being good to your parents, and trying your best to follow their wishes (based on the premise that all they want is the best for their children). But if the woman is perhaps a divorcee or of a mature age (I don't know exactly what age, I'm guessing 30 plus) and the father can't come up with an Islamically valid reason why the marriage should not go ahead then, y'know, she's free to make her own decisions. That's how we roll, islamically.