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Planning for the possibility of divorce is not the same thing as getting married with the intention of divorce. One could even say that stipulating a delayed mehr in the event of divorce is a pretty good way to keep it from happening. He might treat you better if he knew that he has to pay you a large sum if you get divorced. I think that's the whole purpose of a delayed mehr anyway. Divorce, while allowed, is one of the most disliked acts by Allah (swt), so best to avoid it right?

Nobody knows the future, so you should be thinking of such questions as: what will happen if God Forbid we divorce? What will happen if he becomes disabled and can't support me? What will happen if I become disabled? What will happen if we can't have kids?

I don't want to hear the "Oh sister, you lack imaan, just leave it to Allah (swt) and he will provide" inshallah Allah (swt) will provide, that's true. However, that doesn't mean you shouldn't think about these things. Allah (swt) comes towards you an arms lenght when you just move towards him a fingers width... but you have to move towards him. You have to try, in everything, you best. Don't just leave it for latter without thinking about things first. I'm sure those poor girls who got married too young were told by everyone "you don't need mehr, it's all in Allah's hands anyway" well, Allah (swt) gave them the bare minimum, and I'm sure her ex-husband will get what he deserves for leaving his wife peniless, but in the meantime it what is she to do?