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Originally Posted by Habibti
My head is spinning with so much information I just want to cry 
I never knew it was this difficult, Im exhausted  |
Sis you need to focus.
You're a Muslimah. We have the Qur'an as our book of guidance and our Nabi sallAllahu alaihi wa sallam as the example we are to follow.
When we are confused and do not know which way to turn, we do as our Prophet sallAllahu alaihi wa sallam did and pray salatul Istikhara. Surely when you don't know what to do, it's Allah swt's guidance you should be seeking first and foremost, no?
Here's a nice little blurb on the the prayer and remember it's only 2 Rakats.
The Arabic word 'Istikhara' means to ask Allah for whatever is good
The supplication that the Prophet (pbuh) taught us for the purpose of Istikhara is a very beautiful one, but it does not have anything in it that suggests that the person asking Allah for the good (Mustakhir) shall be given a sign in any dream.
If you look closely at the words of this supplication, all they imply is that whenever I have a decision to take, or have taken a decision,
I should pray to Allah that if the consequences of this decision are in my favor, in this world as well as the hereafter, He should help me in carrying out the decision.
On the other hand, if the consequences of this decision are not to my benefit, in this world or in the hereafter, He should remove all inclinations from my mind to implement such decision, and satisfy my heart and soul in doing so.
My dear brother, God has given man the faculty of reasoning. He should take his decisions in the light of the apparent pros and cons of the alternative choices. He should not, in any case, base his decisions on dreams. As should be clear from the above explanation, the concept of Istikhara does not imply that we should wait for signs from Allah in taking our decisions; it only means that we should take our decisions and do whatever we think is right and then ask Allah that if our decision is the correct one, He should help us and carrying it out and making our plans successful, while if it is not the correct one, he should alter the circumstances in such a way that we do not implement our decision, and that he should provide satisfaction to our heart in doing so.
In other words, Istikhara is the declaration of our belief that all things are in the control of Allah and that we, as His humble servants submit to all His decisions, even when we are made to alter our plans because of His decisions.
And ukhti, may Allah swt guide you to what's best.