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Originally Posted by Whatyosayin
Thanks everyone. I guess just because someone is friends with your friends (friends who are respectable), and because someones family is religious, and they are of the same culture, nationality, community circle, does not mean their son is not a sleazebag in disgiuse. Sigh. He also told me how he had a relationship with a hijabi for three years, whom he wanted to marry, and they were kissing and hugging pretty early into their relationship because he has needs.  What about Allah swt's requests of us? He said she was not comfortable at first but became okay with it later. Sigh. It always starts with the prik of a needle, but the needle will just become more and more dull as you keep banging it against the wall.  |
This guy is wrong for you on so many levels. First of all, he's pressuring you to do haram things. Second, he's blabbing out his secrets regarding his other "relationship." Third, he was with a girl for three years, got physical with her and still didn't marry her? I smell trouble from a mile away. As far as the verbal diarrhea regarding his "needs," it is explicitly forbidden to be physical (and that includes hugging and kissing) with a guy that you are not married to. There is no way around that. Technically, even your conversations can't be private (though many people disregard that in this day and age). If he has physical needs, he should get married or fast. Not use girls and toss them away. Do not get physical with a guy that you have no commitment to. Trust me on this one--I've seen plenty of girls who do more than they should have and end up getting devastated at the end.
Listen to wheelworks. He has some good advice there. If you feel you are the conservative one in your main group of friends, start attending a masjid that seems compatible with your values and make new friends there that are at the same level as you. InshaAllah, that may open doors for you.