Quote:
Originally Posted by DramaRani
Questions:
so is your mother a housewife?
has she always been one?
has she been involved in a career at points during your lifetime?
did she ever work solely out of necessity (financial) or due to boredom?
Answers:
Yes.
Yes.
No.
N/A.
One of my aunts, by marriage, is a working mom. She's always worked. Not really out of necessity, but out of strong will and desire. She's had ayahs raise her kids until they were school age. In pursuit of more money, she uprooted her entire family. However, before doing that, she left her one kid with her parents for 7 months (in another state) and left my uncle and her other kid in another state. Anyway, my cousins are totally messed up now. No common sense, no courtesy, NO RELIGION, no respect... They are beyond belief spoiled. They ask for boo, and they'll get boo, boo, and boo in return. Whenever we call out my cousin's bad behavior, my uncle always says that he feels guilty for my cousin having to live with his grandparents and stuff.
Personally, I wouldn't mind working after children. I chose a flexible career path in life anyway, Alh. However, I would never put my job (or more money) above my family.
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I don't think that's a good comparision; most career oriened mothers are more than able to keep their kids local via assistance from daycare, babysitters, and friends. That above scenario rarely happens and I'm sure there are plenty of spoiled, non-religious Muslim children who had stay at home moms.
I posted this in the Love and Relationship forum, but that threads practically dead so I'm just going to post it again here:
I could understand being a housewife in a less developed country where you don't have access to modern appliances; but in developed countries where you can complete tasks in 1/3 of the time if took 200 years ago; I honestly can't say that housewives are throwing their weight around as much as they should be. People always point to the examples of the wives of Rasullah SAW in order to justify ONLY being a housewife; but they forget that was a rural society, which meant housework required A LOT more blood, sweat, and most important of all time than it does now.
Not even kidding, can you imagine how hard those women had to work to maintain the house; I doubt there was ever a day in which they did not break a sweat. Also our Nabi SAW used to help around the house as well. That being said I don't think it's too much to expect a woman to at least work part- time in today's society. Fact is it's just not healthy to spend so much time in the house w/ little to do. Taking care of the kids is great; but after they reach age 4, even that should have it's limits.
Studies show that kids who spent a little bit of time in daycare or summer camps prior to Kindergarten where usually able to socialize a lot better once they first started school. Makes perfect sense school; imagine a child who has been wrapped around his mother almost 24/7 from his birth date to age 5. Chances are he will cause a ruckus th first time he is separated from her every week day for 9 months. He might even cry because of homesickness during his first few days in KG and automatically become the class biatch who gets made fun of and picked on by the other more social kids.
I worked as a YMCA summer camp counselor with kids aged 5-11 and I saw it all the time, a very realistic scenario which slows the kids development when it comes to coming into his own. IMO, that is very irresponsible of the rents if they allow that to happen. My mother started working part-time since I was 4 and I never felt neglected simply by being away from her for a few hours.