[shadha]

Pushpa: Let's say it's a teen who's generally a good kid, well behaved, hardworking, gets good grades, but has had, since they were born, a raging volcano of a temper; as in, when they get mad it's like the full moon just came out and something turned into a hairy four-legged flesh-eating beast and it's like they don't know what they are doing or saying anymore. This person also does not like to be corrected IN ANYTHING, taking any attempt at guidance or teaching as a very personal criticism. To the extent that it is getting really wearing trying to find ways of telling them or showing them how to do things without igniting their very short fuse.

Sounds exactly like one of my siblings. Short-tempered, can't be critiqued or be given suggestions without being offended and reacting totally irrational, and when in a bad mood takes it out on everyone around. Other than ignoring this poor personality trait and not fueling the flames, there isn't much that we did about it. When we sense that he's about to reach that point of no return, we back off.

Basing this on my siblings personality, if the teen in your situation receives any books on her issue, she would more than likely become more irate and offended. You're telling her that something is wrong with her, you're doing something that is her major ticking point, which is criticizing her. Even if you have the sincerest intentions and advice, she won't see it that way. Instead, just try to leave a bunch of them laying around, for her to open and read on her own freewill without feeling like you're giving them to her to criticize and belittle her.

Anger management is also a good choice. Yeah, she'll ***** about that but honestly, I would have preferred it for my sibling.


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