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Originally Posted by Showkat
Salaams All
Its typical of asian families that the brother in-law is accepted to joke around with his elder brothers wife. It could be his elder cousins wife or anyone else he regards as an older brother who has a wife.
I have seen people joking with their bhabi and some of the discussions and jokes are very explicit and filthy.
Also it is accepted to get physical in terms of the joking and I have seen this as well, often unintentionally certain parts of the body is touched, but since its only joking and messing about it is seen as normal.
The result of such joking and messing about is that it sometimes leads to fornication and again I have heard of many such cases. The child of such a liason is brought up not knowing who the father is and the real father does not know that his nephew/neice is actually his son/ daughter.
I would like to know the views of other members on this:
How can we prevent such practices?
How do we explain to our parents/ elders who are pious in terms of their ibadat that such things is haram?
And have you seen or experienced such cultural practices?
Some excellent views here Relationship with your bhabi ( sister in-law ) and Dhula bhai ( brother in-law) - 7th Century Generation |
Well the good news is, your not Allah Mia so you don't have to worry about anyone else.
In even better news, you ARE infact an individual. Which gives you the right to figure out how YOU will deal with this at a personal level and not worry about others.