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Originally Posted by Skinwalker
If the Quran says not to beat women, then well and good. However, that doesn't change the fact that the way it is interpreted and practiced in many Middle East countries, shows that domestic violence is a real problem. 1 in 4 women in Syria are victims of domestic violence. How many then in other countries? Isn't it time for some sort of reform and a recognition that some customs just don't cut it any more? Many Christians will tell you that verses relating to the subjection of women were cultural practices that were the norm of their day and not to be enforced now. Shouldn't this be the view of Muslims too? All violence against women, in all of its manifestations is to be condemned. This idea that men have the right to treat their wives in this manner has no place in an equitable society.
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I don't think men who beat their wives go around looking for justifications in the Qur'an or
hadith. They just do it. If they were mindful of Allah, and if they were following the Prophet's example, they wouldn't be beating their wives or losing their temper to that extent in the first place.
Domestic violence has nothing to do with Islam. I'm sure women get abused, but not in the way it happens in the West. It's extreme in the West. Women are beaten up blue and purple. It is considered culturally unmanly to beat a weaker person to that extent. Beating, in the cultural sense, means to cause pain. A ***** from a thorn can cause pain, just like a light beating can.
I've handled the case of a woman who beat her husband so bad, the guy was scared of reporting her. In fact, the only reason they were in court was because she she said he wasn't man enough for her. It wasn't the husband who brought the wife to court as I had first thought. But you see, there's this habit of victimising women. As if the way to empower women is by convincing them that they are being abused and denied any rights.
Maybe cases of physical abuse by men are more reported, but there are cases of physical and emotional abuse by women that are almost never reported or even addressed. I personally believe that emotional abuse is worse than physical abuse. With physical abuse, there's so much evidence available to indict the perpetrator. You can have a divorce and then move on (it can be tough, I'm sure), but emotional abuse stays for a very long time and can be very damaging, too.
This "disobedience" the verse is talking about probably has to do with emotional abuse on the part of the women. God knows best.