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Sabr_wa_Shukr said
You need to have a sit-down w/ your parents. And if you can't by yourself, you need to add someone to the conversation who you and your parents will accept.
But either way, a sit-down is definitely needed. I'm going to resist saying anything myself, b/c these kind of situations always need both sides to be heard before jumping to conclusions.
I feel ya though  |
That is unlikely, probably close to impossible. Even still, it would be futile.
They degrade me to my core when I utter anything to do with prospective careers that's not related to medicine.
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farah said
yep. and trust me CM, it's really difficult
in all honesty, desi parents don't even know what career options are available aside from doctor/engineer, particularly if they're first generation. what would really help (both them AND you) is if you sat down with them and discuss career options --- and DO YOUR RESEARCH. if you're looking into a particular field, know what you need to do academically to get a decent job (grades, degrees, etc), how much such a job would pay (on average; what's the lowest salary you found? highest?), what kind of experience you need, what kind of extracurricular activities you need to do, etc etc etc. be practical.
they're parents; even though their suggestions may seem ill-advised to you, remember that they're really only doing what they think will be best for your future. like chotoo said, be grateful that they care about you enough to want the best for your future. DON'T FORGET that they want the best for you and that, in the end, they're human... they're going to make mistakes, you're not going to see eye-to-eye but there is a certain amount of comfort/appeasement they can get just by thinking that you have any idea that you actually know what you're getting into, inshaAllah
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Yep I'm gonna start doing that, and call up universities and ask about common post-graduation routes that graduates opt for in some of the subjects I'm interested in.
Somebody else made a post in here that's no longer exists, well it's not just my life. When I hit my twenties I am expected to take upon the role of being the breadwinner and I can't afford to mess up with my uni course or suddenly decide to change it half way in between.
I also need to go into something that pays good and is a sturdy/feasible job because I'm not the only person that I'm gonna be supportin :P
Medicine sounds appealing in that sense because the demand is always there, and I could always move to another country (probably Muslim-friendly) where there is a steady flow of good job opportunities.
It's just a matter of how strong my interest and concentration is.
and when I mention NOT doing med, I get dissed, they make em end up convincing myself that I'm silly and naive to even suggest anythin else, to the point where I really get doubtful about choosing anything other than med. (the point at which I am now)
Blah.