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Old 03-15-2009, 09:55 PM
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smrtengineer said View Post
also, discuss your goals with them too. tell them what you're planning and thinking.

communicate.
yep. and trust me CM, it's really difficult

in all honesty, desi parents don't even know what career options are available aside from doctor/engineer, particularly if they're first generation. what would really help (both them AND you) is if you sat down with them and discuss career options --- and DO YOUR RESEARCH. if you're looking into a particular field, know what you need to do academically to get a decent job (grades, degrees, etc), how much such a job would pay (on average; what's the lowest salary you found? highest?), what kind of experience you need, what kind of extracurricular activities you need to do, etc etc etc. be practical.

they're parents; even though their suggestions may seem ill-advised to you, remember that they're really only doing what they think will be best for your future. like chotoo said, be grateful that they care about you enough to want the best for your future. DON'T FORGET that they want the best for you and that, in the end, they're human... they're going to make mistakes, you're not going to see eye-to-eye but there is a certain amount of comfort/appeasement they can get just by thinking that you have any idea that you actually know what you're getting into, inshaAllah

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