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Originally Posted by Arabesque
I see what you're saying, but I don't see why a woman should be career-oriented to feel fulfilled. She chose to get married, and I'm sure she had a say regarding having a child, so why does a woman have to feel like she's been cheated into this arrangement where she'd have to give up her life? Isn't this her life, too?
What is more important? A woman's career or her children, who will have to grow up used to her absence? What's the point of being a mother if you don't want to take care of the kids yourself, and don't want to feel guilty about it, too? People should fear Allah. Kids are amanah from Allah. You want them to carry out their duties towards you; do the same to them. Otherwise they won't feel like they'd need to treat you with respect and reverence. I'm sure the nanny or whoever takes care of them would be more deserving of that.
When a woman chooses to be a mother, that's a career by itself. I don't know why some women can't see how equally fulfilling that is, just like any other full time job. You may not get official promotions and big titles on a business card you can hand out to people, but you'll have a nice family life and successful children. And of course, reward from Allah.
I have a younger sister who is about to get married. When our young cousins come over, she watches them screaming and jumping on the sofas, smashing everything right and left ... she confides to me, "I'm never going to have kids like that. I'll teach them to behave." But my sister wants to have a career, and she's most probably going to have helpers at home ... so there you go. When is she going to teach them? Weekends? I know she'll come home to kids who aren't exactly what she had planned for them to be. It's your choice.
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I'm saying kids and a career aren't mutually exclusive. You can have both.
Sure, it's great to have and raise a family... but it's great to have a career too.
And in any case, it's nice for children to form relationships with other adults too, especially their father.
