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Originally Posted by Bluestar
I'd be friends with someone for a very long while before i decide to get married to him, if i do want to marry him. What i find strange is including whether you can or can't work in your prenup. Something like that, doesn't concern your husband, it's got nothing to do with him, unless you both have kids of course. Other than that, it's none of his concern.
I agree completely with sugarberry, it's completely important to remain an individual and to maintain an indendent personality. Not only does it provide strength to a partnership but it prevents a marriage from becoming boring!
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I agree. You can focus on your career and your ambitions,
until you have kids. Then it becomes the husband's business, I'm afraid. He has the right to want his kids to be raised by their mother, not some nanny or a grandmother.
I'm sure that one of the factors men take into consideration when marrying a woman is whether or not they'd like for her to mother their kids. Mothering is more than just carrying the baby for 9 months and then delivering it. Why should he allow for his child to feed from a bottle, simply because the wife is busy with work and can't take frequent breaks to feed the child? It's not reasonable, and it's not right. Forget the husband. It's not right for the kids.
If your life is all about you, then don't have kids. Or don't get married. Just keep in mind that you are accountable in front of Allah when He gifts you with a child. If you have other priorities, then don't ask for that gift. That's all I'm saying.