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Originally Posted by Arabesque
I think I must add: Unless the guy asks you to be an obedient wife, not answer the phone and not go out without him ... then he's not a total psycho  Meaning, asking you to compromise with regards to your career becomes reasonable. |
...Suggesting the extreme and suggesting someone should be thankful for not being there, does not justify the act of something else. It's like saying, "be thankful you're just drowning, you could have been eaten by a shark". Both suck even though one may seem worse than the other.
Pre nups depend on the kind of marriage, a lot of islamic marriages begin without knowing the other person very well. In that case people prefer the insurance blanket of having one. There's nothing wrong with that, in fact it's great that women are aware that this man might not be the wonder of their lives and that there is a life beyond that, if ever it doesn't work out.
I'd be friends with someone for a very long while before i decide to get married to him, if i do want to marry him. What i find strange is including whether you can or can't work in your prenup. Something like that, doesn't concern your husband, it's got nothing to do with him, unless you both have kids of course. Other than that, it's none of his concern.
I agree completely with sugarberry, it's completely important to remain an individual and to maintain an indendent personality. Not only does it provide strength to a partnership but it prevents a marriage from becoming boring!