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Originally Posted by IbnMardhiyah
I was referring to guys getting screwed over as in, they often lose custody of the kids and then, all the payments they have to make - alimony, child support, wage garnishes, etc. It may be less if the wife works and has her own stream of income, but the guy is getting screwed over because he's being forced to support his ex-wife and his kids. If she gets re-married, then in some cases she still gets some money from him for herself, and in any case, he still has to pay for supporting his kids while they're in another man's house, not to mention supporting his own new wife [and kids] if he's decided to start all over.
Did the women in these cases seek the help of divorce lawyers for fair distribution of assets and income?
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I fail to see how paying alimony and child support is being screwed over. I can see your point if alimony doesn't end with remarriage (which usually it does), but your kids are your kids no matter where they live, and paying for their expenses shouldn't be viewed as being screwed over. It's unfortunate that people view that as a burden.
The women in the cases I mentioned did in fact use divorce lawyers. But these situations happen all the time. The amounts are very discretionary. My secretary at my old job was going through a custody battle and wound up getting joint custody and about $250 a week in child support. That's not really enough when you consider diapers, formula etc. All the more reason for women to make sure that they have financial security. But, a prenup is not a very good protection against that kind of situation happening because people don't want to spell things out in such great detail because they're in the first blush of love and all that and they often aren't iron-clad. Plus, amounts that are reasonable today might not be 30 years from now. I don't particularly like the idea of pre-nups, but then again a nikkah is a contract and some people have things spelled out and others don't - personal preference and all that.