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Originally Posted by PhDGirl
Honestly, since you just reverted, I'd suggest waiting for a couple of years. It's important to find someone compatible with you on an Islamic level, and you might find that as you learn more, your thoughts on various things change. Give yourself time to mature and settle in before you worry about this. In the meantime, concentrate on school and on learning about Islam. Good luck!  |
I second that. I've heard about marriages that have fallen apart b/c a new convert got married too soon. Over time, you will definitely change your understanding of the faith b/c you will learn more about it on your own and understand it differently than other people do. In the beginning your understanding is heavily influenced by others, and this is by necessity b/c there is so much to learn. If you get married right away to someone who believes the same exact things that you believe, and later you find that maybe you were mistaken about some of those things, that's going to cause some serious friction with your spouse. I got married 4 years after converting. By then I knew who I was and what kind of person I was looking for.
Of course, you already said you are going to wait for 4-5 years, so you probably don't need to hear any of this, but sometimes people change their minds on a whim and get married sooner than they'd planned.
