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Originally Posted by onetspvanilla
long, detailed marriage contracts can't save you in this situation either btw.
say you do get him to agree on you working whenever, and one day the situation arises that he doesn't like it and would like you to spend time with the kids/his parents/whatever reason. you could say that "no, it's in the marriage contract that i can work!" but obviously the outcome of that will leave one party resenting each other. i'm not saying not to have a good marriage contract, but realize that marriage doesn't work like business; whipping out that contract won't automatically make one spouse cease and desist  anyway, insha'Allah khair may we all have happy, fulfilling lives (both at home and if we wish, professionallly) that bring us closer to our spouses. |
I've dealt with the case of one fat, hairy Syrian guy with a double-chin and a huge belly (sorry, I had to just say that - it's OK not to be professional sometimes), who was married to a Bulgarian lady (non-Muslim). According to their contract, he had agreed to cover her tuition fees. When she finally asked him to do that, he refused. She took him to court. Thinking he could divorce her and not pay a penny, he was shocked to hear that he'd be allowed to divorce only after spending time in jail and paying up the amount he had promised in the contract. (Of course he changed his mind about the divorce at hearing that.)
So to think that spouses can get away with not sticking to articles mentioned in the marriage contract is a myth. There are severe consequences, at least in some Muslim countries.
I must add, I informed him of the judge's decision with a huge grin on my face.