In principle I've always believed that whoever is the main breadwinner, their career ought to come first. But I suppose it's difficult to generalise because every situation has different circumstances and factors affecting it. What if the wife has dependent parents and simply can't afford to not work? Shouldn't she at least have the same chance of having job satisfaction as her husband who works to support his own parents and his children?
Or, what if for any reason, the WIFE is the main breadwinner. Does the husband then have any right to be unhappy about his wife's job because she's not home enough, the housework doesn't get done, etc? Shouldn't he be a man and pitch in then and take on more household work, like have a hot dinner waiting for HER when she gets home??
(By the way this has ceased to be personal and is getting hypothetical
).