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Originally Posted by sally

this whole rishta process is making me realize that the emphasis on a guys job and how much money he makes is pretty decent and i mean, i dont know..its kind of hard to find someone you click with and then making sure he's got all the practical stuff down like enough money to raise a family of 5...man..it's getting to be kinda tough..you gotta make a sacrifice somewhere..and ideally speaking i would never want to have to work to support our family but at the same time, i would much much rather click with somebody and live on an okay budget than settle for someone whos okay but has a lot of money

god why this gotta be so complicated



ps: i realize someone is gonan be like YEH ISLAMICAN FEMALES COMPLAIN ABOUT MARRIAGE A LOT LOLZ!

im just saying its hard on guys.

You've actually simplified it wonderfully into a nutshell. It's only complicated when peoples expectations affect reality and they make it hard for everybody.
Another reason is the lack of trust that people have that Allah will provide for us if we work hard. (they say well you gotta tie your camel first and then trust in Allah afterwards....the thing is that they spend the rest of their lives tying their camel and the part about trusting in Allah never seems to come).

The possibility of poverty and under achieving scares alot of people