[Bluestar]

I think it's very selfish to quote hadith about something that specific when you know (which i'm sure you do) that the essence is often lost in translation and a lot of other factors (where other religious texts could also be quoted) could justly encourage the wife to 'disobey' her husband. The purpose of marriage isn't obedience, it's a respect of each others lives and the relationship that you have with the other person (one of the closest that human beings can have) that makes obedience to each other seem natural and easy. I personally wouldn't use the term 'obedience', it's called love. Arguments and disagreements do a marriage good but compromise and reconciliation increases love for one another and a respect and understanding of each others individuality and wishes.

Even then one should remember that their path in life is their own, their struggle, their journey to God/Salvation/Reincarnation/or just the end and there are duties that we have to all beings that have been created by the Being you say you love (or for those who also walk on their own paths). Relationships can disintegrate but your struggles will always continue. It's important to build strength and an understanding of what's around you, focussing on the obligations of another person is wasted time.