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Originally Posted by Salika
It's not really an assumption, it's a fact. I asked people who wrote their contracts and they'd be like "oh the imam did" or and if you ask most people, it's very simple. I say the nikkah contract is like the prenup because you can put things in there. It's not just "ok, I'll marry you." A prenup isn't just about money...
Nobody expects their marriage to break. if I truly felt that way, I would not have gone into it in the first place. This has nothing to do with confidence of the success of the marriage but rather, it's about making sure you'd be ok just in case something goes wrong. I'm sure there are tons of people who go into their nikkah with full confidence but look at our divorce rate.
Signing a prenup has nothing to do with how you think your marriage is going to turn out. It's just making sure that in the event something goes wrong, you're protected because no matter how confidently you go into it, these things happen. Of course one's marriage should always be worked out and divorce should be a very last resort, having a prenup does not take away from that.
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Your personal surveys of the little muslim community you have experience with reflects little to nothing of the realities of the muslim community at large...
If prenup isn't just about money, what exactly its about? honestly you're the first person i heard saying pre-nup isn't just about money...
Prenups reek of financial insecurities... it shows your weaknesses and vulnerabilities. in the event if something goes wrong, how a little piece of paper is going to protect you? it's just beyond me...
My cousin is a doctor in NJC and going to become a prof soon, he married into a multi-millionaire family (hes a millionaire himself), paid 50k cash in mehr alone, there was no question of a prenup...
Heck..my sis was asked to sign a prenup by my BIL, but his parents told him not to ask, and rightly so...before my sis would have told him off...
There's been couple of divorces too...one cousin paid a hundred and few thousand dollars to his ex...he has no regrets. I have tens of examples here from my own family of religious people as well as not so practicing people...all very well-off. the pre-nup thing is pretty unheard of...
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Originally Posted by dreamingofbeards
I pray that Allah (swt) protects your future wife from you.
and/or
unites you with someone who has a black belt.
Ameen
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Dang...Isn't Jaysh so intimidating eh?
