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For accuracy's sake, I specifically said "a large portion" and not "all of them."  |
For argument's sake, what constitutes a large number of men? Is this based on your own personal experience? Anecdotal experience? A study you've done? The movies you watch? The news? "A large portion" is still vague and still comes across as a sweeping indictment.
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My apologies. My reply was definitely influenced by the way the question was posed.
At the same time though, I would trust that the person I was marrying was a decent and good enough Muslim to go through the right steps if a divorce would take place. In that vein, I wouldn't sign one unless it was under specific circumstances of need.
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Fair enough, but to accept that marriages fail is to also accept that the cause of such failure could be a clash of personalities. Reason is often left by the wayside in the wake of such emotionally traumatic events. Why not err on the side of caution?
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Perhaps though, it has more to do with my personality in that I don't see myself as a vengeful person. If my marriage, God forbid, led to a divorce, I wouldn't want to milk my husband for all he had. Rather, I would follow the Islamic principles related to this matter.
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I'd think that it would be easier determine what constitutes 'fair' while heads are cooler as opposed during a potentially hostile divorce.
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So him asking me to sign a pre-nup would lead to the implication that I would be hostile and greedy during a divorce, and thus probably give rise to a feeling of mistrust at the very beginning of the marriage.
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How it's drawn up and presented is a very personal affair. It doesn't have to be viewed in such a negative light or as some sort of personal slight I think it protects both parties.
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But, all women say that apparently. Guess I'm one with the masses
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I wonder if that attitude comes from the idea of "OMG, PRENUP? HE WANTS TO USE ME AND LEAVE ME WITH NOTHING!"
Which could be one possible outcome -- but who would propose such a contract and expect anyone to sign it?