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Originally Posted by infamousbrown
Generalizations for the win! It'd be nice to flesh out that sweeping statement with an example, or at the very least specify what these soft spined men are doing/not doing.
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For accuracy's sake, I specifically said "a large portion" and not "all of them."
Jelly-spined can be those who mooch off of their families, and run to their mommies when things aren't going well. But not only that. I also refer to those who aren't strong enough to hold fast to their Islamic identities.
And men like the originator of this post, who feel inadequate when challenged by women, only because of an inferiority complex. They feel so inadequate, that they have to strike back by taking advantage of the "power" they've been given by God. Which really isn't a "power," but rather a "trust."
I also believe that men who are domestic abusers, for instance, are rather soft-spined cowards who only exert force over their "loved ones" because they are, in reality, very weak.
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Originally Posted by infamousbrown
Equating the drawing up of a prenuptial agreement to the machinations of an insecure male mind is oversimplifying the issue slightly.
There are plenty of good reasons to consider creating such a contract.
So a faulty syllogism was presented by an often misogynistic guy.
That doesn't negate the value in the idea, it just needs to be framed in a slightly less idiotic context.
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My apologies. My reply was definitely influenced by the way the question was posed.
At the same time though, I would trust that the person I was marrying was a decent and good enough Muslim to go through the right steps if a divorce would take place. In that vein, I wouldn't sign one unless it was under specific circumstances of need.
Perhaps though, it has more to do with my personality in that I don't see myself as a vengeful person. If my marriage, God forbid, led to a divorce, I wouldn't want to milk my husband for all he had. Rather, I would follow the Islamic principles related to this matter.
So him asking me to sign a pre-nup would lead to the implication that I would be hostile and greedy during a divorce, and thus probably give rise to a feeling of mistrust at the very beginning of the marriage.
But, all women say that apparently. Guess I'm one with the masses.