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assalamu alaykum

I agree with the point shadha made - a man can help a woman without being married to her, unless intimacy is playing a part. Besides, if a woman wants to get married there's nearly always a man who wants to marry her. Having children doesn't mean she won't find someone- there are men who have been widowed with children who would be happy to marry a woman with children and even previously unmarried, childless men.

I'm yet to see a woman w kids stay unmarried unless there's something wrong with her e.g bad reputation/pyscho etc. Of course this might change when we're even closer to the day of Judgement.

Also, a wife's objection to a second wife rarely stops the man from taking on another (at least in my old community).And anyway, men with 'big hearts' seek the permisson of their 1st family before taking on another, as tearing apart a family to help another would result in more bad than good.