[shadha]

Ibn: Now, are you still going to be so myopic and near-sighted as to let misguided jealousy blind you or make you upset? Why can't women move beyond their insecurities and strive to be better than they already are?

Here's the problem: "If the mahram thing becomes an issue, or if he helps out with the kids as well,"

Explain to me exactly how the mahram thing will become an issue. I already stated that I would get a job to assist in finances, but if she needs childcare, then I will help out there. I'm sure other sisters would do the same. So again, what issues?

And why are you setting up scenarios and asking the women of this board questions if you're just going to belittle and demean us for our replies that don't fit into what you deem as righteous?

Cut it out already. If the first wife doesn't want a second wife, then the single women needs to back down. You don't go and ruin the marriage of another woman for your own pleasure. How is that righteous?

You know what. Call it greedy. Call it jealousy. Call it insecurity. I don't care what you call it because at the end of the day, I'll be the one and only woman bedding my husband. Or as you put it, I'll be the one and only woman receiving moral, emotional, and financial help from my husband.

So it's whatever.


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