05-11-2008, 10:00 PM
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Good Vibrations
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Join Date: Oct 2004
Location: san diego
Age: 26
Posts: 5,838
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Re: Polygyny
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Originally Posted by shadha
Ibn: Who here would have a problem if her husband had a big heart and out of compassion, decided to support another woman or two?
This wife right here. 
Ibn: That being said, would you mind if he married an [older] widow or a divorcee w/ kids, in order to give that woman some moral, emotional, financial support, etc?
Truthfully and bluntly, I don't understand why men feel that it is a necessity to receive sex in return for giving a widow/divorcee financial support. What is up with this give and take mentality? If she needs financial help, where is the community? Or why can't you give her money with no strings attached? If homegirl needs money and his paycheck can't extend that far, then I would work to help her meet her monthly expenses. She need not be sleeping with my husband.
Moral? Emotional? I would help her find a husband, she need not have mine. Sorry. I don't think my husband marrying her out of sympathy is productive. What would he tell her? Oh I'm just marrying you to boost your self-esteem? Yeah, that's a real self-esteem booster.  If she needs some support, I'll personally gather the community around for her and I'll find her some hotline numbers.
There is no reason why she can't go out and find a *single* Muslim man to marry.
shadha-
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