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Originally Posted by Hanbali
Do you know that a wife has to obey her husband in whatever he asks her to do, unless he asks her to do haram? She is not even allowed to leave the house without his permission.
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salam,
im not saying that a women shouldnt let her husband noe where she is going, because that would just be stupid if she didnt. then it will cause problems in the relationship.
but a husband needs to respect his wife as well and let her noe where and what he is doing. if a husband feels as though it is not his duty to tell a wife where he is going or go some place that his wife does not like, then no one on Earth can tell me that is not going to cause trust problems within a marriage. it will.
when a women is cooking dinner, and sees she has run out of tomatoes and the husband is not able to be contacted, it is NOT obligatory on her to wait until she gets hold of her husband before going to the grocery store to pick up tomatoes. i mean seriously, how did ppl do it back in the Prophet(SAWS) time when there was no cell phones then. no they did not wait until the husbands came home, im pretty sure they picked themselves up, went out, got whatever they needed and came home.
well i just realized i used dinner as an excuse and im sure some people may be like 'well yea she has to cook him dinner'. this analogy goes along with if she needs a break and needs to go out for a bit to catch some fresh air. we all noe how crazy life can get and being cramped up in a house or work all day does not do any one any good. therefore, a women does not need permission from her husband (got forbid hes not home) to go out and breathe a little and relax her mind.
i mean seriously, what kind of a relationship is it when a wife has to call her husband and say "do i have permission from you to go and take a walk" lets be realistic, all that has to be done is a wife calls her husband "hi honey, i need to get a fresh breathe of air, im going out for a 15min walk and ill be right back",
1) this shows that the wife cares about the husband,
2) it removes any future suspicions or mistrust had she not have told him and he heard it from the neighbor,
if the husband has a good excuse as to why she shouldnt go (i.e. a murder just occurred down the street a week ago, someone is coming shortly to drop off a package etc) then what wife wouldnt listen to her husband. but at least the relationship isnt reduced to a parent-child relationship.
wow, so after my rant, i agree with wat salika said few posts back