[Hanbali]

Originally Posted by Salika

Yes, the husband has a higher "rank" in authority in the shari'a but frankly, I think many of the marriage laws are to, at best, maintain a stable marriage, particularly when there is no love or in troubling times. Marriage is not just legal standards here. It's involving people's feelings. There is love, affection, mercy, and understanding. It's not obligatory for a man to act like he's king of the house. I consult my husband of course but he also consults me. We're partners. In the end I do know that the final decision is his, but he doesn't rub it in my face. And there some thing he's actually deferred to me. Till this day, he refuses to tell me how many children he wants because he wants to leave it up to me because, as he said, he knows I'll be the one carrying them and it's something that I have to put up with the most.

Sister, I agree with you 10,000% . May Allah [swt] reward you for your even-handedness.

The best are those who are best to their wives. May we be from amongst those!