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Originally Posted by Salika
Thanks sally, that's right 
Sugarberry, as I mentioned before, I do see a difference between cooling off and giving the silent treatment. Silent "treatments" are often done to prove a point and that's the end. With cooling off, the silence is a means to reconciliation so that you don't say anything in anger. People who give silent treatments, from what I've seen, are simply just trying to show how angry they are and expect that person to come crawling back with apologies. Cooling off is just waiting until you can sit down and discuss it properly but your mindset is, unlike silent treatment, reconciliation.
What I've seen with my parents is that one person will get angry and give the silent treatment for days, sometimes even a week or two. The person would apologize and apologize and still... silent treatment. By the time that person stops with the silent treatment, the other person would get angry for making such a big deal out of it and not seeing that they are wrong too and then *they* would give the silent treatment and it becomes this cycle.
Sometimes if I get very upset with my siblings I *don't* tell them "don't talk to me" but rather I say "talk to me later when I'm not as upset" so they know I just want to cool down. I've noticed that sleeping on these things does wonders and the next day we discuss it or often times we both forgot about it. I just find these "treatments" as disruptive and do more harm than good (even if it's just a day). But if it works for some people then hey.
I hope that makes the difference clear... that's how I view things at least, you don't have to agree. |
I respect what your saying, in my opinion slient treatment and cooling off is the same., not talking to someone for days or weeks (people do that?) is something different in my book.
In my family we have two types, people who yell and slam doors/use colorful language and people who dont say anthing ...and avoid the conflict altogether.....I havent figured out which one is better, right now im on neither hahah