[shadha]

displaced: really? what are your "kingly" qualities?
let me preface what I'm about to say with this: I don't think a marriage can be 50-50 and am alright with conceding to my husband not because I have to but because each person in a marriage has to compromise for the sake of the comfort of their spouse.
however, I think it's interesting (to put it nicely) that a man assumes he should have an obedient wife. plenty of men are idiots and plenty of women are smarter. does having a penis automatically make you worthy of respect? absolutely not. you, jaysh, are arrogant and your personality doesn't command respect yet you expect it as your birthright.

Totally agreed upon.

Ibn: I'm a blue personality and I'd rather just be nice and generous if it all came down to a split and leave on good terms rather than having to deal with the bitter acrimony of having to enforce the prenup and maintain a facade.

Don't get use to me saying this to you- but great post.

Though, a word of warning, in the event of a divorce be careful that she doesn't suck you for all you're worth. My grandfather is in the middle of a divorce [I know, such a HORRIBLE stage in your life to be going through such ] and he shared the same opinion as you do. Why uproot her from the life she has gotten use to? MashaAllah he is very well off, owns a couple houses out on LI, and suggested that everything be split 70-30, in her favor. Unfortunately, greed and malice has overcome her and she wants more. How she can ask for more, is beyond me, but now since she tried to get cut-throat with HIS earnings it's down to 50-50. They aren't Muslim, so it would have been 50-50 [at most] from the getgo but he wanted to be compassionate towards her and end things peacefully but sadly it wasn't mutual.


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