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Originally Posted by Hanbali
Jam, how could be a disobedient wife be superior to an obedient one?
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Because it depends on how we define "disobedient". Rather we should talk about the expectations gap.
A girl from back home is going to have a certain mindset. She is going to know what is expected of her in a traditional desi way. If we are expecting our wife to be aware of and accepting of the "tor tareekeh" of desi culture, then this will be favourable to us.
A girl raised over here is likely to be more independent minded. She will not need to be "looked after" as much, you won't have to make every decision for her. Some people would find this more favourable. Also, she is likely to have more in common with you culturally.
It depends on what you're looking for. From what you're saying you're looking for and expecting, I think PhDGirl's suggestion is a good one. Or you could pick a girl who is from the West but is from a lower economic background, or lower level of education than yourself. A well educated woman raised in the West who makes good money from a job, doesn't need a "husband" in the traditional way we might understand a husband. They need and want a companion. So the new husband role changes from provider and law giver, to companion.
You have to decide what you are looking for, and what you are willing to give.