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Originally Posted by Salika
I'm not sure how arguing can be healthy (assuming we have the same idea/definition of arguing).... I just don't see it as productive. I think it's healthy to talk things out and express your feelings in a civilized manner though. Sure there will be instances when someone gets really angry or upset, but we hope those are anamolies and only over really sincere issues. Often times, people (not just couples) make the pettiest thing into this huge issue and anger is really counterproductive in those situations.
Anyways, to each his own... it's fine to disagree of course but really unnecessary to have a condescending attitude about it.
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like I said..I'd love to get your opinion in 10 years. no one's saying that talking things out isn't the right way to do things. however, marriage isn't come magical union. it's two people who've decided to share a life together. you must've argued with your family over something at some point, why would you assume your husband will be different? living with
anyone day in and day out, little things are bound to get to you. you're bound to not like them very much for awhile. you're bound to argue over things you care deeply about.
and it's okay. because at the end of the day, you're committed and you'll work things out.