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Originally Posted by Tiger786
I feel like I'm living in hell. This topic comes up frequently and it seems the only way to please my parents is just to say yes and go through with it. They're saying "we won't force you" but that's basically what they are doing. I have been really obedient to my parents my entire life. I never went against them. I guess I deserve this for being so obedient to them...My mother was just saying today "You were so obedient all this time and now you are giving me a really hard time."  |
I wouldn't. Thats a terrible thing for your parents to do to you, because they ARE forcing you. (desi parent emotional blackmail). It is your life, and you'll have to live with him. You'll have to live with the consequences that follow marriage to a man whom you find yourself incompatible with. Your parents are just giving you the usual desi drama dialogue. If I were you, I'd hold out against it. Don't be disrespectful, but don't give in. Make it clear for whatever reasons it is that you don't want to marry this person, and stand by your decision. Your parents will love you even if you tell them no, believe me. And they'll get over it.
Honestly, desi parents really do live through their children, entirely. Their lives were dictated for them, so they dictate their children's lives, since they never had one.