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Originally Posted by Bruinrab
I'm just going to ask this question. Your perceived deficits were ones that you could fix through lifestyle changes and numerous treatments that have been discussed on this forum. How is cosmetic surgery that much more vain than, say, laser skin resurfacing or permanent hair removal? Most cosmetic surgery patients I have met have gone through similar experiences, they just couldn't diet away their issues; and because of that, their emotional "work" sometimes becomes delayed too.
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I haven't had "numerous" treatments? The only thing I've done is laser hair removal. We remove hair everyday. I've never had laser skin resurfacing or any other cosmetic surgery, nor do I plan on it. And even if someone has skin resurfacing, they probably had some major scarring to begin with. Again, that's fixing, not enhancing.
My weight story had more to do with getting across the point of the psychological aspects but I did not mean weight to be the main "cosmetic" issue, especially since weight has a lot of physical health ramifications as well. And even so, there are some perceived deficits that I still can't fix (like my nose). I would definitely concede though weight is probably where the line is the blurriest. And please don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that we can't find innovative ways to look nice. I'm not at all saying that looking good or spending time, effort, and money on these things is wrong or bad. The question is how extreme a person should go for a what the "deficiency" is. The extremities a person will go (generally speaking), particularly over something that is not that big, to is a good indicator of their mindset.
I just think when plastics, silocons, and all this other fakeness gets involved, a line should be drawn. In terms of vanity, we all care about our looks and it's certainly a valid concern, but when it starts to come and obession, when a person is not happy unless they are perfect (which no one will ever be, therefore said person will never be happy), then it's a real problem. At some point the person will have to accept who they are. No, this does not mean that the 5'4 300 lb woman has to. But if a person who isn't "ideal" (but certainly normal, nobody sees anything wrong with them), do they need to go under the knife? Like when girl who is 5'5 and 130 pounds complains about being overweight.