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Originally Posted by Jamroll
Sorry to hear you're having a tough time, M. 
I think it's too much pressure for you to have to take. It's a lot to take on to study full-time and look after two almost-grown girls, especially if one is being really difficult. She's obviously acting up for some reason, but it's unfair to you and your other sister that she's being like that.
I think you should try talking to her, and explaining that you want the three of you to be a family and you need to support each other, and that her being the way she is, is not being supportive. Tell her, you know that life seems hard sometimes, but it's tough for everyone, and she needs to pull her weight aswell, because you need support sometimes too.
If that doesn't work, you'll have to make a tough decision, and tell her that if she carries on you have no other choice but to let one of your aunts take her. It's not fair on you and your other sister, and who knows, maybe your middle sister will benefit from a different environment with your aunt.
All the best. |
This is really great advice.
New Muslimah
In way your lucky that you dont have brothers ... boys....in their teenage years boys never listen to female authority.
My advice would be to make dua and ask for guidence, then have a talk with your sister and say something to effect of " look dad is being really messed up right now, but that doesent mean we should be all crazy and childish, we have to stick together because were sisters and If I feel like i doing a bad job at making sure you turn out ok, then im gonna have to send you to Aunt X".
On a side note...I would not take such bad behavior from my dad ....I would talk to my dad about how its unfair that im raising HIS childeren and that its not right that he gets married and forgets about the children he already has...and that were NOT grown up yet...so he cant just shove us off into the real world. and that his lack of involvement in our lives, his leading to really bad behavior in your sister's life...and that he needs to step up and be a parent to ALL of his kids.
( its a little harsh...maybe tone it down a bit, but yea tell your dad that your current relationship with him, is not working out for you).
and i would give a talking to the new stepmother as well.