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Originally Posted by shadha
Question for the * Married Sisters*: how does your husband feel about you working out? How does he feel about you loosing weight? You gaining muscles? Do you find that he's completely encouraging? Trains with you? Cooks/buys healthy food for you both? Is motivated by you? Or does he encourage you to a point? Does he say, "you look fine the way you are, why change?" sort of things? Or is he completely put off by you loosing weight and/or gaining muscle? Becoming resentful and sabotages?
I ask this of the married sisters because as husbands, they are closer to the bodies of their wives than a fiance would be.
shadha- |
The husband is quite supportive of my whole weight loss/get healthy venture, although he will break out into a rant at least once a week about how american women are obsessed with their bodies and that he loves me just the way that I am and that I should stop reading fitness magazines and obsessing about working out so much. whew, run on sentence, but it really is a run on rant.
Things the husband does/doesn't do:
*Doesn't complain (too much) about driving 20 miles round trip to a women's only gym so I can take dance classes without men peeking in
*Doesn't complain (too much) when I go running a few times a week
*Doesn't complain (too much) when I made us become quasi vegetarians, aka meat only twice a week.
*Strongly discourages meals with pasta and rice
*Humors me when I flex my arms and say, look, look, I see a muscle!
*Will occasionally run a 5k with me and blow me out of the water with no training
*Will insist that crunches and "stomach exercises" are the best way to lose weight, despite all the evidence I bring to the contrary
*Doesn't understand why I must buy $80 shoes twice a year, and what is wrong with running in a cotton long sleeve tshirt
I think that he's understanding because of the way I presented it. I've never been thin, but after I quit figure skating in high school, I slowly started to put on weight. It got to the point where it affected my breathing (asthma), my heart (high blood pressure) and just about every other part of my physical well being. I needed to change how I ate and my exercise commitment so that I could live a healthy life.
He also does much better when I'm not obsessing about eating and exercising. I tend to have an obsessive personality, finding something and fixating on it for a few months before moving on to something else. I do this with exercise and eating too. So, I make a concious effort to make it just a normal part of our lives, and not THE MOST IMPORTANT thing ever.