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Originally Posted by ShotgunMessiah

I certainly wouldn't encourage anyone "expecting" to change their spouse, but your goal is to please your spouse and if there's something about you that s/he finds so repugnant that you are asked to change, especially if it's something small like smacking your lips or something, it would behoove not only the relationship but also the individual to change.

I always say.

Yeah, but that's a small change. Why would a religious person want to MARRY a non-religious one though? That's your whole life you're going to spend with them; you wouldn't want your religious values to be the same?

Is it about getting reward for bringing them to Islam or something? 'Cause this family friend of ours married a Hindu lady (sleeping with her before they were married) and felt good about getting her to convert. Dunno how that made sense in his head. Is it the same concept here?

There's no dearth of religious people, so if you want somebody deeni, then find somebody deeni.