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Default Re: "Rain Over Surabaya" (Kona Silat Reporting from Indonesia)

assalamu alaykum

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Originally Posted by TdotGirl View Post
This is for you and others that had asked me to elaborate. I'm not implying you shouldn't get to know your potential spouses, by all means find out everything you need to know about them. try the 100 pre-marital questions on sunni path,

BUT...make sure you keep them at an arms length...if you find yourself getting emotionally involved, get married immediately or stop being so intimate! Islamic protocol exists for a reason, it protects our sanity. If we got attached to every rishta then we we'd be too emotionally drained to offer our spouses what they deserve.

Trust me, real love enters your heart the moment you get married. This is from Allah swt..and its the real deal, yo.
define what u mean by being ''emotionally involved''. I really think you're being a little idealistic. I wouldn't put such dreams into peoples minds...that they'll be overwhelmed with ''true love'' the moment u get married. How does that even work? Maintaining no ''attachement'' for months leading up the wedding and then the moment they accept they're filled with love. Slightly delusional.
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