[zakk]

Also, tell your friend to relax and just stay in the moment. I don't think it's fair for the girl or guy to arbitrarily declare when or where or how something that involves both of them should happen. Rather, they should both be considerate of each other... this would include dealing with fears realistically and also having realistic expectations of each other. She simply has to relax and enjoy how things play out; ironically, the more fearful you are, the worse it can be, because your body becomes inhibited. Concentrate on what is more exciting or romantic, and let things build off of that.