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Know that gentleness is required in all things. It is encouraged and approved by both sharia and reason. Things can be achieved through gentleness that cannot even remotely be done through severity and force. Gentleness is the attribute of the wise and the compassionate among those servants of God whom He has selected.
Gentleness is to manage things with subtlety, ease dignity, and deliberation. Gentleness is entirely good, and intelligent men should apply it to all things, especially in dealing with people, first of all with one's family and employees, then with everyone else. It should never be neglected, and it always yields the required results, even if not immediately.

On some rare occasions, however, gentleness may be found ineffective, especially in dealing with certain mean and ignoble natures. To treat such people with gentleness would be harmful to them; they should be treated in an apparently harsh and severe manner, but with the intention of reforming them and correcting their behavior. In this way, one should understand why, on certain occasions and with certain people, great men of God are rigorous. Some people are only shells devoid of reason. If you do not empower them, they will overpower you. [Knowledge and wisdom]


salam