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Originally Posted by DramaRani
I don't think its fair for people to say that a grown man shouldn't have to be babied. Everyone needs their ego stroked once in a while. Women/girls don't want to admit it, but how many times do we crave for a guy to compliment us and give us a little attention? How does it in turn make us feel? I think the real issue that Afra's getting at is not that its a "grown man" that she's having to attend to, but another person period. I, a very long time ago, was once a doormat for someone. I swear to God, it was the most unhealthy thing ever. Alhumdulillah, I saw the light. I didn't care that I was making someone feel better, building up their self esteem, and destroying their insecurities. Taking on someone else's battles was and is hard. And that's what Afra is thinking about. Again hopefully iA, she'll be able to make the best decision for herself  . |
Yea I was just speaking from my own experiences. I liked a guy with extremely low self esteem and emotional problems once and it was no picnic. Overall I was very supportive but after about six months of seeing no change in his mental state I realized there was nothing I could do for him.
Maybe Afra is more patient than me and can deal with it but I couldn't. Generally speaking I'm a pretty positive person, I don't like to wallow in self pity and I don't like it when others do. I know everyone has ups and downs but when your WHOLE life is a pity party it gets to be pretty tiresome.