[the_only_one]

Originally Posted by incognito

Salam All,

I'm actually a member here, but decided to go anon for this post, mainly because its kinda embarrassing.

I recently was introduced to this girl by my family for the whole marriage deal. Mashallah, she's smart, cute looking, has a good understanding of the deen and a cool personality. Basically, what I want and I kinda like her.

But there is one aspect that bothers me a bit. I actually feel very vain and stupid for having this feeling, but honestly, it concerns me. She is, uh, quite flat around the chest region. Gosh, not really if there's any other way to say it.

What concerns me is that, marriage is not only important for long time companionship, but also to control our nafs. I want my wife to be the only women that keep me away from my eyes to wandering. I guess I can't help a personal preference in that matter, but at the same time, does that offset the rest?

I know a few of you are gonna roll your eyes at this post, and hey, its understandable. But I guess I'd appreciate either advice or words of comfort on the matter.

but are we all perfect? dont you think there is definitely something that she may also dislike about you? :ringbell: now that should be the real q...

im telling you all this..thats probably very righteous of me?...im in a similar position..if u manage to figure out the answer..please let me know...